From someone who has never wanted children - why decide to have a kid nowadays? Seem like things are only getting worse and the oceans are on fire and climate change will make the world unlivable within our lifetimes. I’m honestly asking in good faith since I can’t imagine this perspective regardless of global catastrophes because I know I’m not one for child rearing.
I have an easy but boring job right now that doesn’t pay well. I was going to move to a different firm with better pay and a reasonable billable hour requirement. I found out I’m pregnant (9 weeks). Should I wait until after the baby is born? Or make the move now.
My wife was able to get pregnant off oral fertility ....she has PCOS... she took progesterone and letrozole.
Its been 5 months since the baby was born and her period has not gone back to regular cycles - we hoped that the fertility and pregnancy would regulate her menstrual cycle.
Can we artificially create that cycle using progesterone so that she can have a period every month? I wonder if she would ovulate on progesterone alone too in this circumstance. Is anyone regulating on progesterone?
I don't want my birthday to come.
I don't want to grow another year older.
I don't want more of my family to fall sick and pass away.
I don't want my parents to get older.
Sometimes all I want is to feel the sense of security I was lucky to have as a child. The sense of happiness. How do you cope?
Anybody have a kid with school anxiety? My 7 year old will go to the nurse with a stomach ache when schoolwork gets challenging, but is miraculously fine when she’s at after care, or home. I reassure her that sometimes learning new things can be hard, and even as a grown up, learning new things at work is hard for me, too! Any other ideas on how to help? I already emailed her teacher about it and spoke with the school nurse. They are also “on it”, but I want to know how I can be helpful at home!
$230K total comp, w/ stay at home wife, 1 child. Should I purchase an $800K dream home (great schools, location, space)? Or am I pushing the limits? Current mortgage pmt is $1.5K/mo so this would put me at ~$4.3K/mo. Thoughts?
CA attorneys: I have a client who got a court order that the kids are supposed to visit with him (kids are in another state) and now it appears that the kids may not follow the order, client already paid for their flights. Any suggestions on what to do? Ex parte? File the order in the other state to enforce the order? Hold the other parent in contempt? Thanks!
Bain/BCG can you let us know your paternity leave, adoption and surrogacy benefits? Mckinsey falls behind most tech companies and believe we lag against Bain/BCG. Mckinsey has 11 weeks paid paternity leave (expanded from 8 weeks) with 2-4 weeks additional leave for adoption/surrogacy. Additionally we get 10K taxable benefit for surrogacy /adoption.Boston Consulting Group Bain & Company
So my baby is 2 months old and will not nap anywhere but my arms. Will wake up the moment I leave him on the bassinet. At night he’s a great sleeper (sleeps from 8 pm to 7 am) with one feed, but the mornings he just won’t. Off late, I am trying to put him in the bassinet after I rock him to a slightly drowsy state, but his moro reflex wakes him up (I don’t swaddle him in the mornings only put him in a sleeveless sleep sack), where he lasts for about 25-30 mins (just started yday). I give him a
Why do we love practicing law when it’s filled with toxic behavior? I’m literally sitting in ER because of an ill parent and busy drafting while we wait for a doctor.
I regret not having done my MBA from an IVY League B school. I have seen industry and HR professionals being biased towards people from IIMs and so on. While I am currently doing decently well, I can't help feel bad for experiencing the bias in terms of promotions and CTC.
Even the new/baby IIMs (some of which I have left to join my B school) are now given more importance.
How can I offset this bias?
Happy Friday Eve, you beautiful people! ❤️ this picture of my adorable baby to bless me with the DM feature. 🙏
Moms who sent their kids to daycare - when did you feel your kid started going to daycare regularly ? I am started my child this summer (10 MO) and also have a part time sitter until august to cover for sick days ( no family near by ) but would like to know how long to plan for the sitter. I am recently divorced single mother so don’t want to continue having sitter as it is expensive on top of daycare at the same time I can’t work while taking care of a sick child .
Moms, especially moms in tax, I wonder if I should leave public accounting and go work in private (PE fund). My friends have been telling me that public offers more flexibility, which is critical when you have a baby. A bit about myself - I made manager last year and mainly work on private equity/hedge fund taxes. Is it truly less flexibility in private? Should I stay in public for the sake of flexibility? Any suggestion/advice is appreciated!
My partner is always busy doing something with his kids or wife, I end up doing everything in the ‘selling phase’ because multiple times a week there’s a dentist appointment or school thing that he’s at for half the day, then he’s unavailable after 5:00 every day. He doesn’t really do anything until an idea is sold and he has to comp. This has been going on since we were paired up. What’s a nice way to say ‘your family isn’t an excuse to pin all this work on me’?
Some context: agency let go about 15% of the company a month ago. I was warned by my dept lead more layoffs could happen if we don’t win new business soon. I’m 35w pregnant.
What scenario (if any) is most likely:
- That I’m let go before my mat leave begins
- I’m let go during mat leave
- I’m let go immediately after returning from mat leave
Seems like potential PR nightmare for them, but I can’t ignore the fact that I was given a heads up that layoffs could happen.
When did you tell families you were pregnant?
I have a family trip in a week, where I'll be 11 weeks pregnant. Seems like a great opp to tell my family all in person, but I'm not sure if it's too early. This is my first (and first for either of our families, for that matter).
Mother Tongue: Telugu
Profession: software engineer
Salary: 12 LPA
Looking for a telugu software guy for marriage.
Best “new parent present” from work? I’m trying to up our game from just expensive flowers that die in a week.
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How many of you consider this look actually cool? https://www.wmagazine.com/fashion/jeff-bezos-new-years-eve-miami-style
Hi all , need a suggestion. I am currently getting an offer of 40 lpa in India with one of the FAANG companies . The role is not in a fancy team and is okayish.
My company has promised me a transfer to KL Malaysia with a salary of 2,40,000 MYR (~43 lpa) but since I am in consulting , my options would remain open in terms of exit and this can open up South East Asia market for me.
I am confused as to which direction to take. Please let me know your pov in terms of opportunities in SEA, salary
Let’s talk about the social media posts of women complaining about how they want to “touch “ people they want to “hug” people they miss “people “
My response to that is : guess what whiny lady . Try saying that to those families who have lost loved ones and couldn’t even be with them at the time of their deaths ! Don’t you think they were saying the same ???
Anyone out there working on electronic trading systems? Trying to figure out the market rate for early career software developers working on these types of systems (~1 YOE)
If anyone wants a referral at Okta, let me know! I could get you a referral since I work there
I applied to Google this week with a referral, hit every minimum and preferred qualification, and submitted a good cover letter. But I listed my email as a Yahoo email... it’s over, isn’t it?
Pros and cons of transitioning to in-house early in an agency career? Thinking of making the move after 4 years agency side. Most people I know have done it after 8-9 years, but not sure I’m interested in staying as long!
Who’s boss still print out excel worksheet and ask their staff to scan at printer as PDF file then send it to the boss??
Best carry on bag that balances, style, price, and convenience?
Typically like to pack outfits for the week including workout outfits so should fit a lot
Currently looking at Away Bigger Carry On
This is a bit off topic but can anyone recommend a real estate attorney? It’s just for an apartment (likely co-op with condo rules, if that matters) purchase. My friend might be putting an offer after he sees the apartment tomorrow. TIA!
I am a mainframe developer with 3 years experience and looking forward to switch to Java developer.I am currently serving notice with 1.5 months remaining.
For last few days, i am getting calls from HR and i am not getting shortlisted for interview as i don't have working experience in JAVA.
Kindly suggest ideas/jobs/opening so i could get a Java developer role with out working experience in it.
Note: my current CTC is 4.5 LPA.
“Justice Department Sees Early Fraud Signs in SBA Loan Flurry”
Good news for us I hope
What is a DevOps starting salary ?
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Q for the science nerds of consulting: do you think we age slower due to constantly traveling at high speeds when flying or do we age quicker due to the reduced gravity due to the reduced gravity?
Fish fam - quite new to all this and would appreciate your support. if I am based in a high income tax state but work on site in a lower income tax state. Can I claim the paid taxes back from my home state or do I always pay income tax based on where my home office location is?
American airlines flight delayed cause incoming flight that landed on time is now being used for another route. how many points?
Hey Bain / McKinsey fish, how are you guys doing a year into COVID? Sustainability wise
Wanted to know the concept of milestone year. Can they stop C to SC promotions due to low utilization despite good ratings on scatterplot. Would adjusted utilization or PRD, firm initiatives count?
Rockets or Cavaliers?
When interviewing for FAANG companies do you provide the names of the clients you’ve worked for in order to make your experience more valid instead of saying “client” .
Do any of the consulting firms (McKinsey, Bain, BCG) have a military spouse policy? Meaning you’re working for one of those companies, but married to someone on active duty - how does that work for your office location if you move regularly or do not live near a major city? Thank you.
Is listening to an audiobook vs. reading considered “cheating”? During COVID I have definitely increased my book reading, instead of just news/article, but I’ve actually never listened to an audiobook before and would like to explore more difficult reads ie Faulkner. Also, when do you listen to them? Bike ride, getting ready for bed? Thanks!
Was this intentional or just dumb luck and poor diligence? A marvel superhero who happens to be an employee you laid off is your banner for your services. 😂
Want other 🐠 ‘s advice. I interviewed at a large company in industry doing what I specialize in within advisory here at KPMG. The new role would require a move from Chicago to a smaller cont..
Those that boomeranged back to old firm - how strict was your interview (if you even had one)?
How do Deloitte's food expenses work? I heard you expense the actual amount of your meals instead of per diems. What's a reasonable amount to each meal?
Best way to get from JFK into the city at 5 am?
Entering my 15th week unstaffed for the year. Does Deloitte do layoffs for low utilization? Mine is around 60%
https://www.propublica.org/article/new-york-city-paid-mckinsey-millions-to-stem-jail-violence-instead-violence-soared/amp?__twitter_impression=true McK == The New IBM? As in "No one gets fired for buying IBM".
Is anyone willing to refer me for BCG or Bain? Associate and AC roles respectively. Happy to jump on a call for intros. Really looking to make a jump and think I have a strong profile.
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