Anyones partners inattentive through this? My husband is constantly busy working and he’s done nothing to help prep for this baby. He doesn’t cook, I have to ask him to clean, etc. I’ve asked several times for his help and it goes nowhere. We booked a babymoon and I of course planned all of it. I finally snapped but I’m going into my third trimester and at a breaking point. I really feel like he has awful time management coping mechanisms and I’m worried how present he is going to be as a dad.

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Hi, I went through the same thing! Hopefully your partner will be like mine who stepped up when the baby arrived. When I was pregnant I had to do EVERYTHING. Now with the baby he helps with the diapers, cooking and sterilizing bottles. He really stepped up. Maybe it’s hard for them to understand pregnancy, but nothing better to kick them into gear than a crying baby!

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This may not be great advice but I started hiring people to fill the gaps. - nanny for after day care to help me with my baby (thr bigger I get the harder he is to lift), cleaning lady once a week to keep the house in order. Order healthy meal options for delivery - the nanny will also often help me cook so I can spend more time with my son.

If he doesn’t have time for it, I definitely don’t between work and my doc appointments - so outsourcing seems like the best option. 🤷‍♀️

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What does his family say? I assume his parents, siblings excited for baby. I’m pretty sure my father in law had a sit down with my husband when we told them I was pregnant as a light bulb turned on and he’s been on the ball since, more than expected.

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That’s really tough, does he at least go buy things that your craving? Maybe he just needs tasks that he can actually do? My husband will pick things up after work at the store and is usually helpful with cooking but I can’t eat anything normal anymore, he’s come to all the doctors appointments as well. Sometimes I think you just need to make it more clear and tangible what you want / need. He’s busy with work but we both have made a clear commitment that the baby is the priority this year over our work.

That’s really tough, does he at least go buy things that your craving? Maybe he just needs tasks that he can actually do? My husband will pick things up after work at the store and is usually helpful with cooking but I can’t eat anything normal anymore, he’s come to all the doctors appointments as well. Sometimes I think you just need to make it more clear and tangible what you want / need. He’s busy with work but we both have made a clear commitment that the baby is the priority this year over our work.

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