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Are there any people that are single mothers by choice? (Had a kid on your own and raising on your own by IVF or adoption) Would love to hear your experience and any advice!

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Yes I am. I’m thankful I had the courage to become an SMBC. DM if you want to chat.

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One Director I knew, she had beautiful twin girls that way at around 37-38. If I wanted to have children and I had no partner in sight, I would definitely consider it!

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*im 25 years old and have never dated or wanted to but really want kids so am considering options. Would like to have kids around 29/30.

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I was lucky and met my husband young and never had to think about this…but personally, no question if I wanted to be a mother and didn’t have a partner, I’d go for it alone. I would not have wanted to miss out,even knowing being a single parent is super hard

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If you want to be married by then you will be. No judgements though if you want to be single and have kids but it’s really hard to do it alone in consulting

Would not recommend getting married to any rando just so you have help raising kids. Not to mention, it’s not a guarantee that the partner will be help rather than additional burden, lol. OP you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. No advice or experience but best of luck on whatever path you take!

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I should have gone this route. I was too afraid of IVF, got involved with the wrong person just because I wanted to have a baby, and I truly truly regret it. This is really common in NYC and becoming more common in other cities as well!

Single motherhood by choice is really common.

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