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As a immigrant woman from middle class family, all my life, I felt the need to comprise everything, that I always get the third/fourth best choice because of money. My parents shamed me when I get anything good since I was a kid. So even now even I can afford some good things, I never get myself anything good, and I felt bad about it but still very penny pinching.

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Don’t let anyone make you feel bad for how far you’ve come. If you can afford XYZ, then you get you XYZ! I came from a lower middle class family where the parentals price compared everything and often settled on the “what will get us by for now” option. My husband and I do very well and have no kids. Both our parents (who had 3 and 4 children) don’t seem to get that means we have more residual income than they ever did. They constantly make comments on our purchases. The most recent being my very reasonably priced 2017 Hyundai Santa Fe 🤣 TL;DR You earned that money, girl! You spend it how you want.

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