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As ambitious, successful women, do you find yourself more attracted to similarly ambitious people or more relaxed, laid back personality types?

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Honestly? Both. I’m attracted to people that challenge me, and sometimes it’s the guys that are baristas while other times it’s the guys on the fast track to the C-suite. It’s whoever makes me think, question my priorities, and ultimately (and selfishly) forward myself.

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I don't need another me at home so more relaxed works perfect for me

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I prefer the low key ambitious type. So a combo of both. I want someone who is successful, but not someone who is so focused on prestige and $ that they're gonna run themself into the ground and neglect other properties like family

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My military husband is successful but (now) has learned to shoulder the family and household burdens equally, though my career is not where I had hoped due to the constant relocations, etc. Hard to maintain momentum.

Definitely ambitious people

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I love my diplomatic, conscientious, non-competitive, intellectual partner. Makes me be able to take off the mask and just BE.

Such an amazing, welcome relief from the folks I engage with at work.

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Someone who can keep up with me intellectually and has goals, but isn’t competitive with me or the “live to work” kind of person

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Sidenote- I call BS on these guys who ended the relationships to “focus on their careers.” If they are in a really busy and critical period at work, they should have a conversation with you, e.g. “the next few months will be really busy so I won’t have as much time to spend together, how can we make this work?” It is possible for two ambitious people to be together if they both value each other and the relationship, communicate, and are willing to compromise.

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I like ambitious guys...but ambitious in all aspects of life. Has career goals, personal growth goals, family goals, and is able to balance them all. It can’t just be about the next promotion or $$

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I like people who are passionate about things and smart, but typically am drawn to people in different fields, more creative, ect. I find it stimulating to have a different perspective. I’m not super uptight, and prefer a partner that is not too uptight either.

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I prefer someone more laid back and relaxed, it balances me well.

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Both. I don’t know whom I’ll fall in love with. So I’ve dumped my lists. Whoever reaches my heart, that’s it. I’ll fit him in my life. I can be a clair and be happy with my phil. Or i can be a Michelle happy with my Barack.

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My friend recently told me I was too picky because I tend to go for career-oriented men. The last few people I’ve dated have all ended the relationship because they wanted to “focus more on their careers.” Is it possible to have a strong relationship with 2 career-oriented people?

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I think that’s a reason people use when they’re not that into someone. I think it’s harder but works if you prioritize one another, which takes some flexibility on both sides.

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Definitely laid back and creative. I made a major mistake marrying another ambitious person. Has ruined my life.

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Me too. We both made great money, at the top of our game but we couldn’t enjoy life because we were all about money and climbing the ladder. Lots of assets made for a messy divorce ...

More ambitious than me but not arrogant

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I’m the opposite. I make a great income so i went from being with another alpha to someone more laid back . Our relationship is more balanced and I like that

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