As I get into my 30s, I’ve noticed recruiters focusing more on maternity leave than anything else when I ask about benefits.

I know that benefit is important to a lot of women, but as a child free person it kind of makes me uncomfortable that they are just almost assuming I want a baby because of my gender. Maybe just mention it instead of emphasizing it?

It also makes me assume that companies might discriminate against me in the job process (which isn’t cool for anyone) over a man.

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And I’m all for mothers getting better maternity leave and benefits.

I just feel like they are almost touting it so they can try and pay me less, as I have male friends making more.

And I’m uncomfortable saying I don’t want kids because some people are nasty when you say that. 🤦‍♀️

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I don’t harp on it, but I do make sure to mention it when extending offers or if someone asks about benefits. A lot of women are afraid to ask because they don’t want it to be a reason not to hire them, so I want to make sure they know that support is there for them should they need it.

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I agree - I have been the unfortunate position of asking and re-asking for the details around mat leave in negotiations and HR conversations when pursuing a new job, and I always feel like it gives the hiring manager the sense that I'm going to get hired and immediately go on leave. I prefer that recruiters and HR bring it up proactively, to everyone. It's really important in making a decision (at least it was for me!)

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Agreed. Often mentioned for me as well (female, 30s)

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I would ask, as a retort to that, what sabbatical, adoption or relocation benefits are as well. See if they have options that don’t fit binary gender paths!

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