Asking for a friend... Do you 🐠 tell your employer about your mental health issues or no? Despite HR's line about support, etc, I am concerned that if they know it will be detrimental. Con't...

helpful
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

I think I've hidden it well all these years, but some days it feels like it would be helpful to have someone know /support me at work. Depression with a lot of suicidal thoughts /ideation, fwiw.

I applaud your willingness to talk about it. What do you believe you will gain from telling them. To be fair, they are not trained nor are specialists at treating mental health issues. I honestly don’t see much if any upside. Talk to a therapist, find friends who understand what you’re going through. You’re worth it

OP - talking about it with understanding people is absolutely a good idea. I wish you well

like

Related Posts

Hi Fishes,

I'm Consultant in my firm with 5.5 yoe. Looking for consulting roles in Food/Restaurant, Insurance, CPG, CRM, Loyalty domain. Have worked in multiple client facing projects with outstanding results. My expertise are Analytics, using R, statistics, sql along with visualization like Power Bi, tableau or store telling using PPT.

I have less than 15 days of notice period left. I'm looking for an opportunity in any big consulting firms. Please Help!

like

Anyone willing to refer to Clipboard Health or Color?

like

Random question kind of curious about:

For your firm, how dressed up do you typically find yourself on client site in FED? Current project I have to wear a full suit and tie everyday, is this normal?

like

Does anyone work for hub central insurance ? I have a job offer for working with them.

like

I'm starting a home health agency and I'm having second thoughts because of how saturated the market is. Anyone have any experience working at a home health care agency that can share some insight into the industry?

Any other insurance companies have infertility coverage? Any details on specifics is a huge bonus. Progressive has coverage, but I’m miserable and seeing that I want multiple children, I have to stick this out for at least 2 more years.

like

Hi I'm Caribbean-American and I bought into the hype of getting a job in healthcare, but I don't it's for me, I like the job security but I feel like I could earn more money doing something else, any one ever felt this way?

like

Legato Health Technologies 🥱😂

Post Photo
likefunny

Are there any executives out there who have recently negotiated with their CEO for an updated compensation package? I know I'm being underpaid as a CFO who has also handled all of the HR responsibilities for the past 3 years. Currently at $130K with $30K bonus at the end of the year. I don't take the insurance through the company either. Currently no 401K match program available.

I’m trying to get my parents into adopting healthier eating habits but nothing is really sticking. Do you have any recommendations or like books I can give them to teach them what’s actually good to eat vs. falling for good marketing/ fads?

like

What is the health insurance coverage at Google? How much deductible and copay?

Hi everyone!
I was looking to enter the healthcare consulting sector, but have almost no one to guide me towards the same. I am pursuing a Biosciences and Bioengineering degree. Any advices? Thanks!

like

How much is medical examination for Green Card supposed to cost? Does insurance cover the same?

like

I’m a health advisor and looking to grow my network to be an influencer. I hope you don’t mind me reaching out to connect with you. I work with self employed individuals and realtors to help them find great affordable coverage. I find that a lot of self employed individuals have bad health plans or are paying too much for the plan they have. I just wanted to offer my services. I am also looking for referral partners and to help educate individuals on health insurance.

like

Quick people who work at social media agencies: how long should I tell a client a client social posts will take? Is .5 hour per post for 21 posts too much?

like

Seasonal depression is slowly starting to creep in and I know it’s going to get worse after daylight savings. Any tips on how to combat this? Especially with limited human interaction due to WFH

like

I can’t stand most women in manager roles and I’m a woman myself. I’d much rather work for a man. There’s no petty bs. Everything is direct and no one gets hurt feelings.

like

My boss asked me to take care of some of the details of a project for her—the stuff that isn't really my area of expertise. And now I feel like a shirker because I haven't been able to finish them yet.

like

Just started a new job a couple of weeks ago and also today found out my wife's pregnant. When is an appropriate time to tell my new boss? Company policy asks for 3 months notice but it's a growing startup. What does everyone think is appropriate?

like

obligatory post: how will COVID impact human capital? The types of work we do, factors in making a healthy organization, etc.

like

More Posts

I hit my one year at my company on the 15th of November. I had lunch with my boss on the 10th and he mentioned a raise but not how much or when it would be effective.

Flash forward to now, we’ve had 2 paychecks since then and I haven’t received anything. He said last week he would let me know this week, but I’m getting frustrated.

He’s raising my billing rate effective Jan. 1, and I’m worried I won’t get my raise until then. Anyone have something similar happen?

like

How you deal with managers who want to constantly micro manage? I feel like this attitude is only towards me ( only woman in the team ) As much as I try to build the trust and deliver high cont'd.

like

🐟 any suggestions on next move? Have offers from following
1) Deloitte - 175K
2) PwC - 160K
3) EY - 165K
Role - M , HCOL, PAM/IAM.
Which one to go with? D has better comp but not sure how WLB is ?

likehelpful

Alright let's have some fun!..... What's the funniest/craziest/ridiculous thing you've had to deal with at work?

likehelpful

Could anyone provide me with a quick analysis on emissions for cars? My country is considering to lower the speed limit in the night to 100 km/h (currently 130 km/h on some highways). I wonder whether this actually has a positive influence on emissions? Because the decreased speed also results in longer travel times. And aren’t the emissions very car specific as well? I can imagine old cars would be more polluting but I doubt if there would be a difference for modern cars? And what about fuel?

like

What would you do if the president asked you to be on the Coronavirus task force? Contd.

Post Photo
likefunny

How do I get a free NYT subscription?

Hi All,

Could you please let me know if there is opening in Accenture. I am searching job from past 5 months.

likefunny

What is the average Manager salary in Netherlands? (4 big or MBB or boutiques)

like

Brillio does he take time to share feedback?

I’ve been reading more about how there’s a difference between how men socialize and how women socialize at work. There’s a school of thought that says that men are “friends” outside of work with their coworkers so they are more likely to lift each other at work. Women however are more likely to separate their work friends and their social friends. I think I fall in this group. Cont in comment

like

Any public relations and media consultants in the building? Looking to connect!

like

What is the best way to build professional relationships with a new incoming boss about whom I know nothing as he is a new joiner ? Note that I don’t like to unnecessarily suck up and believe in only hard work.

likefunny

Delloite vs PwC India

Please suggest in terms of project, working hours and wlb

To all my new construction home buyers or people with an eye for interior design. I just purchased a new build and have the ability of selecting all of the interior (floor type, carpet color, cabinets, back splash, counter tops etc.) Any advice on how to select timeless finishes vs trendy? What are things I should avoid?

like

I am sick of being a realtor! I've been trying for 5 years and have only sold 3 houses. Where I'm from (small Southern town) nobody is buying. Most people's families already own homes and it's just a bummer to see all these nice houses deteriorating over time.

like

My home office is Gilbert but I am currently in the Midwest. Start date is September 7th. When should I start planning my move? HR really doesn’t know the game plan yet. I am thinking I should keep planning to move out there but everything seems to be up in the air at the moment. Also, anyone renting in the area?

like

Has anyone started their own gig on the side or freelanced while still working full time? How did you manage? Really want to take the leap and set up my own shop

like

What to use my $100 ambassador Marriott store credit on?

like

Additional Posts in Depression/Anxiety Talk

I'm doing everything in my power to not quit without another job lined up, and every interview falls through. I'm overwhelmed by my clients, I've had enough corporate koolaid for a lifetime, I could not care less about what I do, and I've started exhibiting destructive behaviors at work but keep getting told I'm doing great.

If I'm going to be stuck here, clearly my attitude is the main problem. How have you learned to find joy in your job? What makes you feel like you matter here? Why stay?

like

I've been feeling super depressed lately. Just feel so empty inside. I hate this feeling - how do you all deal with it?

like

Sending all y’all some love & whatever energy you need most. You’re here. Maybe some days here feels impossible, but still you wake up and choose to keep fighting. YOU’RE A WARRIOR, CELEBRATE THAT SHIT. It gets better, I PROMISE you. CHEERS!

likeupliftinghelpful

I’m having trouble staying on top of things that I know are important. I just don’t care most of them time and the. Maybe once a month I get all concerned and make a list then I only do a couple things on it until going into the funk again.

like

Any tips for not getting overwhelmed with the sheer amount of work on multiple engagements and dealing with multiple people (specialists, staff, execs, mgmt)? I feel so overwhelmed currently. I don’t know how to do all of this, and I’m really close to a breakdown. I don’t remember being this stressed out BEFORE busy season.

likehelpful

Diagnosed depression, anxiety & PTSD. Some days are better than others but lately it’s been more bad days than good days. I’m trying my hardest to stay in the fight. How do you all hold on? It doesn’t help that I live alone and 8 hours away from my immediate family.

like

I was emotionally unfaithful to my SO. SO found out and sometimes brings it up when we get into arguments. When they do, I get really anxious and I want to self harm. I don’t know how to deal with it. It’s so paralyzing.

like

My therapist just said he could no longer help me because I went back on social media to see what my ex has been up to when I said I wouldn’t. I don’t know why this is so wrong. I’m sorry that it’s taking me longer to heal and I’m not ready to let go.

like

Took LOA last year, multiple months. Recovered from burnout driven by long hours during covid. But feel like I'm now experiencing burnout in a different form. Don't feel drained but I'm just unmotivated to do anything in life and work. I don't want to eat, exercise, go places, or work. I don't want another break from work, I want to keep doing things (eg not so drained I want to take months off) but this seems like burnout and I don't know what to do.

likehelpful

I really feel like I’ve been dealt a really bad hand in my life. It feels like no one gives me a chance. Whether it’s a job I know I’m qualified for, or someone I’m interested in. Even things that appear to be good at first end up sucking. I know I should be grateful for what I have and that so many others are less fortunate. But I still can’t help but think that for a person in my position, given the opportunities that I was given, I am just a complete failure and nowhere near what I could be.

like

Has anyone came off Zoloft successfully? I have been reading about the withdrawals and it sounds terrible.

like

Anyone else use work as their escape? People complain about not having work life balance but I only stay for the long hours. I've battled with depression and anxiety for the last decade because I got married and started a family too young. I'm in a more financially secure place now but my marriage has mentally exhausted me. We're just together for the kids at this point.

likehelpful

Is it normal for my psychiatrist to ask to schedule an appointment to lower the dose of my Ritalin XR prescription?

I’ve been on the same dose the past few months but recently it’s been causing a pretty bad crash for me so I wanted to lower it. Why the hell do I need to pay $60 for 10m of her time to prescribe me a lower dose of the same meds?

I’m wondering if I’m overreacting, or she’s purposefully trying to just get paid more

like

I have been feeling so unmotivated, unengaged and just plan tired with everything lately and don’t know why

like

Anyone have tips for dealing with a SO that’s getting mean? I know this lock down is hard, but she is screaming at me more and more for stupid things. I am just sucking it up, but I’m getting to the end of my rope and it’s firing off my mental health issues.

like

Hello there, I’m just wonder if anyone of you experienced studying or interview prep anxiety. I’m very chill during learning process but when it comes to deadline stress reduces my ability to generate thoughts. Any ideas how to overcome it?

like

Health stuff (beyond anxiety and depression) getting me down. Want to take med leave (dr has said yes), but am afraid of internal politics and YE. Need courage to go through with it

like

Shorter days are upon us. Anyone have a special routine to help them overcome the winter blues? Do sun lamps actually work?

like

Is anyone trying to improve their mental/overall emotional health but no one close to you is working on themselves the same way? It’s just frustrating bc every time I talk to some friends they still get the same type of judgmental reactions like we used to be like 10 years ago. I’m just trying to live and accept everything but I just don’t feel like they get it.

like

Wanted to share smth I found recently. I felt like it was pretty darn accurate. I’ll provide the link here but there’s a screenshot I took that I feel I can relate to quite heavily. https://pairedlife.com/love/infatuations

I’ve struggled with so many heavy infatuations before and a friend recommended this. Hope it helps anyone else out there who’s gone through this or may be going through this right now.

Post Photo
like

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Send download link to your phone

OR

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy.

Messaging rates may apply

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal