Asking for a friend: just found out she is pregnant while working with a resourceful recruiter to apply with big firms. Should friend tell the recruiter about the pregnancy and being candid?

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This is a really tricky situation that I’ve dealt with 3 times in last 3 years. In each instance, the candidate did not want to go through the interview process, accept an offer and then say “oh by the way…”. While legally OK, they felt it was either (I) not the right thing to do and/or (ii) not good for their career since maternity leave would disrupt the first year integration. Putting aside right or wrong - in all 3 instances, the candidate asked me to pull them out of the process and explain to the firm why with the hope that the firm would say back “we don’t care that you’re pregnant - this is a long-term play for us (and hopefully you) and we support working moms, etc etc.” in all 3 instances, the firm did just that. All 3 accepted offers and one actually just got made Partner (AmLaw 10 by PPP firm)

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Sadly, no. It will hurt her chances.

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1) When / how did you tell your work you were pregnant?
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Both of these questions come up almost on a daily basis, we should have a centralized thread to help each other out. :)

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