Associates, how did you balance your morning sickness and fatigue in early pregnancy with work? Thankfully I’m still WFH, but worried about receiving insane turnarounds that require me to stay up late/all night and the effect it might have on the baby. I’m past my hours for the year and feel like I should be able to say no, but the team I’m on has a tendency to push past no’s.

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Take care of yourself and baby first. Now is the time to start setting boundaries, especially since you are past your hours for the year. It’s good practice for you and your coworkers as you will again have to set boundaries once baby arrives. :) hang in there, first tri can be a lonely and scary time. ❤️

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I haven’t personally been pregnant yet but I am trying to conceive. I have heard through the grapevine that if you are having a hard time in early pregnancy you can tell a trusted partner you are working for what’s going on and they will help you keep your hours reasonable. YMMV. I personally would be hesitant about that, most of the partners I work for are men who haven’t had children since I was a baby.

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I definitely didn't "balance" things. I was super nauseous and super tired and couldn't physically work long hours, so I told my mentor when I was 7 weeks, and we just figured out how to get me off deals. I billed 100 hours that month, which was truly the most I could do, and ramped up more in the 2nd trimester. No shame, no apologies, my health is more important than my job, and everyone understood, even if they were inconvenienced in the moment.

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Fully agree with Associate 2 - if you have a trusted partner or senior associate who you can be up front with, definitely do that. I did not for either of my pregnancies, so I had to get creative about taking naps during the day when I could - this is what helped the most (during covid WFH times). You can also always have a chat with the powers that be that you are having some “health issues” that require you to not be pulling all nighters for the time being - that way you can set a boundary without going into why. Hang in there - it is not easy!

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Oh wait I totally missed the part where you’re past hours for this year. Definitely push back and don’t feel bad about it.

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Not pregnant yet but curious to know answers. I’m expecting that I might just have to quit when the time comes…

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I'm 7 weeks myself and the nausea/fatigue is getting nuts. I'll also add that I have ADHD and had to stop taking my meds (not safe while pregnant). I'm mentally and financially prepared to quit too...seems inevitable at this point. I am barely billing 50% of the day.

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I’m dealing with this exact situation right now. Unfortunately, I have to go into the office. For me, my nausea generally gets really bad in the early afternoon and until I go to sleep. At the office, I snack and that helps somewhat. It’s tough though. It is difficult to concentrate when I feel like I’m seasick. With my first child, the nausea went away around the 14 week mark, I’m hoping that’s the same case for this pregnancy. I tend to get really hard on myself as I know my work performance isn’t what it usually is. Then I remind myself that I’m literally growing a baby inside of me. Try to be kind to yourself. You are doing the best that you can.

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I was very sick during first tri. I was also new to the firm by one month. It was a recipe for disaster. I hardly billed anything for a month and got very behind. Second trimester has been much easier to bill back up to my normal hours.

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You should be fine then!

It's a struggle- I'm 7 weeks rn. I have to continously eat to avoid getting nauseous and when I WFH I block 2-3 on my calendar to nap. I would consider telling a partner (female if possible) to lessen the load if possible.

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For morning sickness, i used the gum in the pharmacy that helps with nausea. It was a gd send

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I remember closing my door and laying down under my desk. I kept snacks with me. Grapes worked for me.

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I also would lie down under my desk. Sometimes it helped to go outside & get fresh air-walk around the bike path for 20 minutes-but sometimes I could not keep my eyes open. For me it all got better like magic @ 14 weeks but I know so many women who were sick the whole time. I worked with an office full of women @ the time & I was not supported. Madeleine Albright said “there’s a special place in hell for women who don’t help other women.” So disappointing & so true. Did not return to that firm after my son was born. Told my boss a week into my maternity leave I wasn’t going to. I knew there had to be something better than that. There was but it pisses me off we have to work so goddamned hard to find it.

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