Assuming one is an alcoholic...is there any middle ground for occasional drinks or is it all or nothing for recovery?

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If one is an alcoholic, by the definition they would not be safe having occasional drinks, because at some point they’ll either ramp up the amount or frequency, or they’ll succumb to a binge. It comes down to being powerless over alcohol. The desire to even want one drink, and the decision to take the drink, are also dangerous things to be taking place in an alcoholic mind. For me, it’s “nothing”, and I’ve honestly never been happier, more content, more in control, more free, and healthier than I am right now.

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It largely depends on which method of recovery you are following. In the world of AA, it’s all or nothing. If you are following other recovery methods or gurus, some advocate for harm reduction or moderation.

The real question is... are you an alcoholic or just a grey area drinker? Only you can answer that question.

AA would say if youre really questioning if you’re an alcoholic or not, keep trying. If you tilt the scales again and again, chances are, you’re an alcoholic. I stopped for a year tried it again for 2 now I’m 2 years sober.

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In my experience, I can't have just 1 or 2. 1 is too much and 10 isn't enough, as they say. For me it's just easier to avoid it altogether. Otherwise j just start the spiral down again.

It’s nothing for today, but reevaluate tomorrow. Repeat.

There’s no requirement that you stop drinking forever when you stop drinking... just stop for today. Keep going a just day at a time.. if you want to drink, that’s totally fine, just sleep on it first, and think about it..

That’s the only way I got sober. Now I’ve got years of sobriety and that means something to me, and good things beyond all imagine came as a result... At first the idea of not drinking again was so overwhelming that it took me years to quit, and I only did by just pushing it off for a day at a time.... years later I still do that, but I also have a lot more to be grateful for in my life... it’s always easier to jump out of the first floor than the penthouse, so all the self sabotaging kept me from building my dreams when I was drinking. Now that I’m sober, I see what I’ve achieved with all the extra time and I know I could loose everything if I started again, but doesn’t keep me from wanting to drink... so it’s just for today I’m not going to drink, we’ll see what tomorrow holds, and I’ll say the same thing to myself tomorrow.

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