Asymmetrical face and just hate how I look to myself in pictures. Feel ugly as hell. Don’t know where to go to feel all this self love stuff people rave about

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Noooooooooo! Don’t do this to yourself. I’m short. And round. And grey. And I look nothing like these drop dead gorgeous skinny tall blond women around me. But I’ve decided I’m awesome. And that’s it. End of story. And for the mofos who don’t think that about me… too f*ing bad.

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I would strive for body neutrality instead of body love. Try deprioritizing the importance of your looks in who you are as a person. Your face does a lot for you—it conveys expressions to others, you talk, see, and hear out of it, etc.

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Not everyone is beautiful - but you can make sure you’re physically fit and embrace your personality. You are bound to find success in dating if you do

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Don't ever say such things about yourself, even to yourself only. I'll bet you're far more critical of your appearance than everyone else is; many people are. Forget whatever standards you see around you, especially in the media. And BTW - we all have asymmetrical faces. I didn't believe it until a photographer pointed it out to me.

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Beauty comes in many forms

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I mean this in earnest: get plastic surgery? Sometimes it’s the best option if you really feel like it’s disturbing your everyday life

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We are always our harshest critics. When you look at other people do you judge them just as critically? For the longest time Ive always hated the little fupa us girls have, no matter how skinny we there’s always a little tummy— until I see them on other girls. I actually find them kinda cute and when I see it on others I don’t find them fat. that’s when I looked at my own reflection and became a little kinder to myself.

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Everyone’s face is asymmetrical to varying degrees. If you want to take better pictures, take a modeling class to learn how to pose and which angles work best for you. If you genuinely dislike your face, focus on what you do like about it and highlight those aspects of your face or just get cosmetic surgery.

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OP, I have an asymmetrical face too so I understand how you feel but you know what? A lot of people do. Real friends, family, and lovers don’t care how you look (I am sure you look fabulous). What really matters is your character. I know that is cliché but it’s true at least for me. I could see a girl who most men might think is beautiful and she would be “meh” to me because I don’t know her and probably have nothing in common with her. However, I would approach the average looking sitting in the corner alone because chances are she is WAY more interesting than the “hot” one. Beauty is only skin deep… 16% of your body, in fact. The other 84% is what’s inside. I know that’s not how works but I am trying to make a point here haha.

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The 1930s star Jean Arthur had an asymmetrical face. If I recall correctly, she avoided having side of her face to the camera. It’s taken me until 65 to accept my looks. I’m frustrated that I spent so many years looking down on my looks. But now I feel so much bettet

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Confidence goes a long way.

If you can’t find confidence in your looks, you should at least try to accept how you look. Let your personality shine and let your confidence stem from there.

P.S. Beauty is subjective and I’m sure you’re a beautiful person.

Have you tried stacking textbooks on one side of your head? Worked well for me 🤪

(disclaimer: may cause unexpected side-effects)

Aaah - pictures taken by people who have no clue how to take pictures. Anyone would look unflattering in those.
You go to a professional photographer and have them take quality pictures of you. Then you'll know you look beautiful!

Don’t know if you’re a F or M, but is it something you can minimize with makeup, grooming your eyebrows differently, new haircut? Have you considered fillers or surgery? There are solutions if you feel accepting yourself the way you are is not enough.

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