At 30, if you’re living under your parent’s roof but you’re supporting them, do you consider them to be living with you? Or are you still telling others that you live with them?

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Are you...pete Davidson? Your moms your roommate!

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In some cultures it’s a requirement. I have friends that have an eastern background and they are expected to stay home until marriage. So to each his or her own!

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Definitely a thing in my parent’s opinion. Just hinting it will pull them into an emotional 😭 that I gave up trying

I’m 34, and my parents and I live together. I pay 90% of the rent, bills and expenses etc. Dad has been out of work since he got sick.

Needless to say my dating life has taken a solid hit.

But family comes absolute first, most especially when it’s parents who have done so much for me back in the day.

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F here and i absolutely respect that.

I think the important difference is who's house it is. If it's your parents house you live with them. If it's your house they live with you

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Honestly OP f what others say. You gotta support your parents - and good on you for doing that. Doesn’t matter whose name the is under cause without your support there would be no house.

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This 👆🏼 find the partner that’s right for you and your life choices. Looking down or judging you for caring for your parents, doesn’t seem like long term potential to me

is your name on the mortgage?

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Thanks, SD1. I’m a woman so, yeah! Ugh... it’s just an emotional ride but, have to figure it out. I definitely tried staying back on weekends in the other cities (the weeks I was on road). So, will probably change my job location

Just say you're helping your parents out. You technically live with them but you're helping them financially.

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I honestly didn’t want to say “I’m helping out” if I could. But, trying to organically present to the match so they don’t need to know more than the moment deserves

Is it their house or yours?

Yep.. I have been working in the consulting industry for over 8+ years. My parents used to live in a smaller city(Overland Park) where they got by super easy. They moved to Chicago so I moved in to help them with figuring this city out and thought I could move out in 6 months. I kept traveling all the time so was home over weekends only so did go through that indecisiveness of whether or not I wanted to move out at the time. Just venting I guess bc when I say this to a match, they seem to be taken aback that I live under parent’s roof. A few guys hinted that I should plan on moving back to the city (parents live in suburbs) if I want to keep dating them and obviously ghosted/broke up after a while. So!

I dated someone who lived with his parents. His parents kicked me out of the house one day for no reason. We’re not dating anymore. 31/F

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