At what age did you feel like you found yourself or figured out who you are? I’m 25 and feeling lost and depressed. Not sure what to do

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I'm 50 now, and I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up.

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34 still don’t have it figured out

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Sounds like a textbook quarter-life crisis. I wish I could say it gets better/easier.

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34 and I feel like the last three months I’ve really figured out a lot more about myself than any other time in my life. Reading mind opening books and stopping giving a f*ck really helped.

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You never know yourself fully because you're always changing; but you can choose the direction of the change. Took me years of therapy to learn that.

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I’m 33 and switched careers recently and that made a huge impact. Don’t be afraid of making a big change. Things that also help me: 1) invest more time into people (a lot of times we are down about our careers and are actually just lonely). It’s often the little things like making time for a coffee break or happy hour that will give you a daily boost and create real relationships. 2) avoid complaining about work with your coworkers. This can be a real death spiral. 3) be a part of an organization that’s unrelated to your work that interests you. Our jobs can put us in echo chambers because we are surrounded by similar people all the time. It’s refreshing to be with people with different perspectives. 4) don’t chase the money. I’m not saying you should follow your “passion” but our careers are very long and if you worry about your income bracket more than you worry about other things in your life then you are guaranteed to never be content.

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I’m going through my quarter-life crisis as well. Started at 27 and still trying to figure it out now at 30... Working with a therapist now since I have started having suicidal thoughts. You are definitely not alone.

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25 and I feel the same way. Try therapy if you aren’t already OP. It has helped me learn to cope with my feelings of hopelessness.

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Fellow 25. If we know everything we’re about at this age we’re definitely missing something. Future’s bright

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There is a cycle of big changes in life every 7 years, every 11 years and every 18 years. So the 30’s are pivotal, at 33, 35 & 36. You will effectively be a different person after that. Keep searching for yourself in the mean time, watch out for social media and news. It’s mostly an echo chamber and does nothing to help really find yourself. Good luck and hang in there!!

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I was about 28-29...so weather the storm. Happens to us all

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31. No clue

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25 here, qtr life crisis is real 😰 few years outta school and it’s like it’s finally all hitting at once that life is such a damn delicate balancing act 🙃🙃

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I got into marathon running a few years back and I will say you learn more about yourself in the last 6 miles of a marathon than you will learn about yourself in an entire year. I think this is why I love it. It’s both a social sport and a personal sport and keeps you sane on the road. I’m 31

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30. This is the first time I’ve truly had the pleasure of being proud of all the hurdles I jumped and hassles I faced when introspectively looking back at my life. Till now whenever I looked back, it was a blame game on how I messed things up. It was liberating to realize hindsight is 20-20 but at the moment I was human and made the best decision I could. No one willingly makes bad decisions. We all strive for better. And you can’t be sure that a decision will pan out successfully, you take the leap of faith and hope for the best. Stopping the blame game and appreciating my battle scars helped a ton.
Don’t worry OP, I had a horrible 25th birthday which I spent blowing off steam at the firing range and distracting myself by going shopping. Luckily an after effect of a quarter life crisis is the ability to attain serious drive and motivation in the fear of being a 30 year old “loser” (as your mind deems) so the next few years will be intense but fruitful 🍎 🍌 🍉

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35 and 36 ... And it goes on. For me, a defining moment was when I realized that my work has to have deeper meaning. I spend half of my waking life at work ... I might as well be doing something, or supporting a client, whose values, ethics, and morals are congruent with my own. For me, it’s not just about a paycheck. That being said, finding yourself or figuring out who you are, can complicate things even further. I will be sending positive vibes your way!

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