At what age did you move out of your parents house? Did you find that it helped your relationship for the better?

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I moved out when I was 18 for college, and continued on till now (24 years old).

It has done not only wonders not only to my relationship with them, but also to my own personal development; coming into my own, taking responsibility for my own shit - and perhaps most importantly, in learning to draw and maintain healthy boundaries with my parents, as well as people in my life in general.

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Same here!

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Moved out at 18 for college and never moved back, even when I dropped out of college temporarily (moved into my own apartment). I wouldn’t say it really changed our relationship as I was always quite independent

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Moved to NY at 18 for college, never moved back. Tempted at times when all I could afford was a tiny windowless room in a shitty converted office space with 4 roommates and 3 mice (that we knew of), but I loved New York and couldn’t bear the thought of moving back to the Midwest. My relationship with my parents is great. I felt like I could learn to be independent living on my own but always knew I had a safety net if I really needed it. They never helped me out with any living expenses but gave me a loan to help with business school. Now I’m in my 30s, married with two kids living in the suburbs (sigh, NJ). I wouldn’t trade my 20s on my own for anything, living on your own is such a great experience.

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I moved out two weeks after I turned 28. Wasn’t making much money, probably three times less than now. I graduated at a horrible time and spent six years being undervalued at jobs. I plugged away at my loans and tried really hard to see a way forward.

Went to Paris solo for the second time, came home and knew if I could do that, I could do anything. Had a fight with my parents over their opinion of an Indian guy I was dating, at the time. Told myself, nope, this environment isn’t going to help me grow.

Found a place the same week I started my search. Moved into my place, found a new job making %40 more less than 6 months later. I credit that to the level newfound focus I could have not living there. Most importantly, I have much much better relationship with them.

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Are you me? Moved out at 27. Graduated at a crap time for the economy, didn't make much money the first few years. It so happened that a better paying job (still almost a third what I make now) was too far to commute from my parents. I also had recently broken up with my boyfriend and being home all the time was a bit much.

It also made me appreciate them more than I would if I lived with them

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Yes so true!

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Moved out when I was 18. Moved back in after undergrad (22) b/c I couldn’t find a job. Moved out again at 24 for grad school. Moved back in at 27 because I suddenly left a job in a city I hated and moving back to my home city seemed like the best option. Moved back out a few months later at 28 when I got my job at PwC. Lol. It’s been quite the ride

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I moved out for college and then after college lived at home for a year while working for Accenture. I was on full time travel so I wasn’t there a lot and it was only my Dad and I. I really appreciated that time to hang out with my dad more but also get his view on work as an adult (it’s something we never talked about much until I started my career). I moved after a year to a different state but that was a great year and it helped me put down a large chunk towards student loans.

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I moved out because I wasn’t getting along with them. Took years for us to figure it all out. I was more independent and forced me to grow up and take the responsibility I would have delayed.

At the same time, mortgage/rent was higher and my ability to save more was compromised.

All a trade off.

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I raced out when I was 18. After grad school o humbly moved back for a summer while I took the bar and looked for a job when I was 31. I was miserable, but it definitely helped our relationship and I know I’ll be grateful for that time. Having a break and having it be finite helped.

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OP are you located outside the United States? E.g., Europe, Asia? In the US it’s pretty rare not to move out at 18, generally for college

I’m in NY

17 and never looked back.

Moved out when I was 18, already started working at ACN and also study. It was a crazy ride since then. Started to handle all myself and it’s not that easy. But if you want to can get through all stuff. Btw I’m 22 now and never went back to my parents.

I actually moved back home after college and stayed until I was 28. I remember not liking it very much at the time but now I wouldn’t trade that time for anything else in the world. I felt I had a chance to know my parents as adults and it made my relationship with them even closer.

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