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At what age will I feel like an adult lol. I’m 27 and don’t feel much different than 22

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Definitely less determined by time and more determined by experiences and mindset. The past couple of years has taught me both at work and culturally that most adults are just older children.

Corporate world is kind of a bubble. Most jobs don’t ask much of you other than to do a small subset of tasks well. I think my friends in medicine became “adults” rather quickly by their mid twenties if not, then late twenties. There’s something sobering about encountering your first psych patient, child from home with negligence/abuse, poor patient who can’t afford their medication, or elderly person who shattered their hip and no family has checked in on them. Puts life in perspective and residency really forces you to grow up. Lots of respect for them

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34 here, two kids, two dogs, + a mortgage... Still don't feel like an adult!

I know I am an adult but I'm still learning things every day! I think while the kids are young we will still feel youthful as you play and muck about with them but when they get older then it will probably hit home more!
I often pause and think that I still feel like I'm mid 20s and ask myself when will this adulting era start? Then I have a beer or two - and the hangover reminds me!

Ultimately we are all muddling through this life at different paces but the speed is up to you!

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Same here at 39, two kids and a mortgage 😂

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Late-30s or early-40s. You finally no longer care what other people think, your body aches more, and you generally just want to be left alone. If you’re citing hangover effects, you have about 5yrs to go.

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I’m 28 and I’m doing all of these😅😅

I’m 26 and have felt like an adult since I graduated college, got a job, stopped being a party girl, started paying for health insurance, and began to experience overwhelming feelings of joy about home decor

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I am 23, and feel like a kid for sure but after I graduated and felt an extreme amount of joy about home decor did make me feel a hell of a lot older

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When you pop a kid out

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Sorry, but no. Adult responsibilities do not depend solely on having children.

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Part of growing up for me has been coming to the realization that this never really happens.

"You'll understand when you're older" is just stringing young people along until they can join the long con.

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I had to support myself and pay my way through college which included a 1.5-2 hour daily bus commute, my parents were not the best examples of good life guides, I've experienced financial insecurity (fear of not being able to pay for food/shelter), I've had ambitions crushed by cruel corporate politics, but I still get up everyday with a hop in my step. Does that make me a grownup or a kid? Not sure

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Early 30s when your hangovers start to hit harder and metabolism slightly slows down

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Frankly until mid 40s I felt the same physically as I did at 25.

I’m 50. My oldest kid is 29. Still amazed he asks me for advice because I’m completely winging it and have been forever.

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Heh, that’s the dirty little secret of parenting, isn’t it? I’ve told my little (preteen) guy more than once “you see me as dad, but remember I’m just a dude just like you who happens to have been alive longer.”

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It's not about age it's about responsibility. The day you say I'm not just living life for my self and I'm responsible for a family, children or employees/business you will start to see things different.

There's nothing wrong in living with a bit of youthfulness, there is something sad about a 30-40 yr old who lives like they are 21. I know a guy in his 40s who is divorced with a kid and used to go clubbing every weekend... You're not a cool dad you're just a little sad.

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Sounds to me like G1 has some past trauma with clubbing, as it’s the only example he continues to use for his argument

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Being an adult has almost nothing to do with age.

Plenty of 30-somethings living at home with their parents, playing video games all day.

Contrast that with teenagers going to war. No comparison.

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What’s funny about war, C5?

I don’t think it’s based on feelings. I feel the same as I did when I was 22. It’s responsibility, decision making, etc. For instance, I wouldn’t jump off that bridge like I did when I was 18. Why? What is the point? Was it fun? Sure! But the risk isn’t worth it. I had no clue how deep the water was or if there was something floating in the water below (tree, etc). I had a buddy who did the same thing and now he is paralyzed from the neck down.

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C3, it was 20 years ago. We had some at the time but I’m sure they are long gone.

SOL1, yes it was a bridge crossing over a river... I suspect the total height to be 50-60 feet. The road portion to the water was probably 30 feet. I climbed to the top of the bridge up the main structure and stood on top while cars drove beneath. 1 car even stopped to watch... He enjoyed it... 🤣

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Age is just a number. Seen childish behavior from all sorts, and incredibly mature actions from younger people.

Only thing that matters - is you keep your body young and mind sharp.

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I’m 45, still waiting...

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Seriously, I have no idea

I'm already focused intensely on retirement plans.

I still think about what I want to do when I grow up and when my real life will begin.

Life begins at retirement apparently

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13. I had to raise myself (new country, new language, culture.. without parents) and then had to raise my siblings too towards the end of my teen years until now. I’m 26.

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Thank you!

I didn’t really feel like an adult until I became a parent, close to age 40.

As soon as I had to care for and protect my kids, my mindset shifted and I look at things differently.

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I’m 29 and I’ve gotten much more introspective in the last year about my age. I don’t “feel” old but I’m becoming much more aware of the different phases of life and what youth means. I’m seeing my parents more as real people and thinking about what they were like at my age. I think constantly about my limited time here on this Earth and what I want to achieve before I die. I’ve thought a lot about what it means to be a parent, the experience of adolescence, and how people become who they are.

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You’ll still be thinking the same thing when you’re 59. Trust me. And that’s OK. Try to become the person you really admire. Person benchmarking LOL. I had some good examples to help me.

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Guess I’m not typical, but I distinctly remember feeling like an adult at 14 when I first realized my parents couldn’t be relied on to make good decisions for me and I had to take charge of my life if I wanted to be happy and successful. So I’ve never understood this whole “I feel like a kid” thing. I think much more about responsibility than age.

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C4 - between childhood abuse at the hands of my brother, then my parents divorcing at age 12, my dad abandoning me, my mom going into a severe depression where she would either stay in her room for days on end or leave me alone for days on end, and for a solid 2 years, she didn't pay the utilities so I lived in a dark house with agonist nothing to eat; let's just say, I definitely grew up a lot before I even hit 14. My parents would leave me completely alone at age 6 while they carted my brother off to his things (whether sports, boy scouts, or whatever); I'm really lucky their negligence didn't cause permanent physical damage. It's no wonder my adult years have been mostly me trying to catch up to everyone else.

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When family members started dropping like flies, when friends of my age unexpectedly passed away or got hit with life destroying mental issues - really sobers one up to the fragility of life and the importance of keeping yourself together and your relationships to others intact.

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Go to your old college during a regular weekend and find the most popular bar there...sit there for a few hours and drink a beer or two. Impossible to walk away from that not feeling like an adult. -someone who had this exact experience last night unintentionally

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What a frigging great question. I’m 59. Found a good place in my career in nonprofit. Learned how to be a good husband (and was already a good father). The reality is that I’m still 22. Life has given me experiences and knowledge but I feel like those have just made me a better me. Be a good person. Find ways to put others before yourself. Keep good friends. Work out and take care of your physical and mental health. Don’t worry about your age. Nice to be able to say that.

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What a great answer!

I'm turning 40 this year and still play pranks on my fam. So...maybe never?

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