Baby due at end of January, feel like I can’t take the paternity leave and if I do it will reflect bad on me...

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But yeah like it’s your kid. People can’t get in the way of that. And tbh, you taking the leave also sets culturally lines in the sand. Nobody should be or be supporting working through parental leave. The spirit of parental leave isn’t lottery based where you hope nature times up outside busy season that’s not realistic.

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10000%! The firm can wait and your teams will survive without you, but you won't get this time with your child back.

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Your firm and your team are not your legacy. Your family is. Think about the example you set if you don’t take the tine to be with your wife and new baby? What does that say about you as a husband and a father? Is that the role model you want to be? I assure you there will be plenty of work to be done when you are back from paternity leave (again you can take it in pieces). However you will never get back the opportunity to spend time with your kids when they are little. Never give up the opportunity to do so. You’ll regret it - please don’t regret it

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I’ve taken all 6 weeks of my parental PTO twice in my first 4 years at the firm, once during a portion of busy season, and I am on track for an early promotion to manager. Do good work and the people that matter will have your back. If someone at your level or even your manager on the job has anything to say about it, talk to your leadership.

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Take the leave. Your wife and newborn baby will need you way more than your team will.

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Just take it.. you need it.. make arrangements for before And after you get back ASAP. Life is more important than busy season

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Don’t worry about work, just take the time and forget about the rest. You’re not going remember your coworkers 18 years from now, but your baby’s birth and growing up will last forever

Take the leave. Take the leave. Take the leave.

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Seriously take it. Find another guy in your office that took it. Otherwise you’re literally wasting free money 🤔

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You don’t have to take the whole leave all at once. Why not take a week or two right away, then use the rest after busy season?

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Take the full leave. Particularly if this is your first child it is a big change for you and your spouse and this isn’t like a vacation you can plan the dates on. I have a friend who is the lead senior manager on a massive global priority account and is up for partner next year he took the firm’s full leave benefit recently...my point being it should not impact the Firm’s perspective on your progression. I am sure you are an important member on your teams (no joke that our work would fall apart without good seniors) but the leave opportunities are there for a reason regardless of timing. Best wishes

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take the leave!!!! maybe buy ur group lunch or something when u get back to show apprec for the help.

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Take the leave. EY is very supportive of this. You won’t get this time back!

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It is completely insane that this is even a question - and I completely understand OP because the pressure to be present and working is very real. However, this is your life. How many kids are you going to have? Not to mention your wife's feelings on the matter. Any other job in any other industry and this is a non-issue.

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You should take at least two weeks after the baby is born. I can speak from the new mom perspective and I don’t know how I would have gotten through those first days without my husband there with me. It’s a huge adjustment and time that you’ll never get back. Make arrangements immediately (and I would recommend earlier communication next time to allow your teams to better prepare for your absence)

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I took 2 weeks when my son was born to help my wife, then went back to finish busy season and then took my full leave after busy season was over. I know 2 others who did the same thing.

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I wouldn’t even describe forgoing the leave as “loyalty to the company.” We don’t want you to forgo it. Loyalty would be to take care of yourself and your family and come back to work filled with the joy this phase of life brings.

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Take the leave! I just took mine and it worked out. Your partner and baby need you.

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You have to take it the work will still get done you only get one chance to see your child born once. Those are precious moment you can’t make up for. I’m sure they will understand it s not like it was planned deliberately

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Be flexible with the timing vis-à-vis busy season / whenever peak periods are for your group and it’s fine. Take two weeks when the baby comes and take the rest after your busy period, but take it all. It really only matters as a differentiator when you’re up for Partner / Managing Director and even then more as a gauge of your dedication. Be flexible and no one will care. If your title is right then it will be a while and people will forget if you even last that long. Family is forever, the job is temporary. Take it all

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Definitely take your leave. My wife had a baby 2 months after I started at EY so I didn’t get any leave (hadn’t hit the required 1 year mark). Take that leave with a smile and enjoy the opportunity to be with your family.

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Take the leave! It’s just a job and your family is most important.

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I’m in the middle of my 4 month paternity leave and my teams have been very supportive. Highly recommend taking it.

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