Babysitting my 6 and 4 year old nephews for thanksgiving. Don’t know how y’all do it! We’ve been trying for our own for a while but they’re now scaring me into thinking whether we can handle it

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Going from 0 to 2 at ages 6 and 4 is a lot at once. It wouldn’t be that crazy on day 1 when you have your own. But also… we are very tired all the time.

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When it is your own kid, you can handle it.

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Having kids is a lot of work so think before you have it .. once you have them there is no going back 🙃

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This! We were told there is no return policy when we were leaving the hospital with our little one.

You love uour own kids a lot mroe than randol relatives. So the hardship becomes worth it. That’s why people do it.

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You'll be fine when they're your own, but yes, you'll also be tired a lot haha sometimes kids are more or less rambunctious with people other than their parents. Depends on the kids and the parents. My nieces and nephews were usually energetic but respectful with me, but they were different with others, either really tame or really crazy lol depends on who's watching them

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After having kids our natural instincts kick in and parenting become a bit easy. Yes, there are no perfect parents. Sometimes, you will get exhausted and might question your parenting skils, but it's okay. Babysitting other people kids is different than taking your own for sure.

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It doesn’t become easy, it just becomes unavoidable.

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You will be tired all the time. And get really good at showing excitement about the things they are excited about. And I genuinely have fun with them. But make no mistake-I’m a big believer in kids being allowed to be bored. It gets me out of constantly entertaining them and they always figure out something to do that is way more fun for them than anything I would come up with (and they usually leave me out of it).

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It’s hard

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One is a lot more manageable especially since you and a partner outnumber :) This is partly why I don’t want a second

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Definitely it is not the beautiful, blissful story society tells you. I love my child but this is no walk in the park. It is work!!! It changes your chemistry as a woman, your relationship with your partner and with the world. I waited to be older and liked that decision. My son is amazing but think before you have one.

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As others have said - parenting is hard but 100% worth it. You'll be exhausted because the parenting job never takes a break. But you'll also know love like you've never experienced it, you can find wonder and so much joy in seeing the world through your kids eyes. The satisfaction that comes with seeing your kids learn and grow and become amazing humans themselves is unlike anything else.

It's also much easier to put the energy into your own kids than it is to care for someone else's. So don't use your feelings after watching your nephews as a basis for deciding whether you can hack it as a parent.

Good luck in making your decision. Only you can decide what makes sense for you and your family. There is no always right or wrong answer.

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