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Been asked to work on a project in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia. Anyone has experience working there? Is it safe for gay men? It is a 2 week on and 2 week off project for 6 months.

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I appreciate all the comments. I decided not to take the assignment, my husband was totally freaking out about it.

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Certainly lots of gay men live and work in Saudi. Homosexuality is illegal though and the law is enforced (don’t count on white/foreign privilege) so the only way to ensure ‘safety’ is to not to do anything that could be considered ‘homosexual’. That said you can use a VPN for Grindr and you won’t be the only one in your hotel... All depends on your appetite for risk

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I was going to say, being gay is punishable by death in majority of ME countries. And SA is about as bad as it gets for any minority

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Personally, I would avoid. There are so many places in the world that don’t murder gay people

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Unpopular opinion maybe, but I wouldn’t take it. Because it’s not a joke, going someplace where people like you get thrown off roofs. It’s your life.

Your. Life.

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It’s safe if you do nothing but work in the 2 weeks there. Most consultants (even straight ones) then let off steam in Dubai at the weekend. If you have a bf, he obviously doesn’t come to visit you in Riyadh. And you just avoid personal discussions with locals - they’re smart (and plenty of them have same sex fun since premarital sex is also dangerous).

So it works ok, but 6 months is a long time. If the work is interesting and you can accept being back in the closet for periods of time, should be ok

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Get out to Bahrain at the weekend! With the US and U.K. naval bases there, it becomes a rowdy party on Thursday and Friday nights! All the Saudis let off steam there too. It’s an eclectic mix. Watch out for drunk driving on the bridge on the way home though - it’s better to fly.

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Agree with the above. I lived out in ME for two years and had regular weeks in Saudi.

Just don’t talk about you personal life in SA or do n’t take any actions to incriminate yourself.

It is one of the worlds less desirable assignments, particularly for a gay man. I’m not sure I would take this.

Very interesting post as considered role in Dubai and leary of being out in the ME

^ being gay isn’t, having homosexual sex is. So if you keep head down and work it’s perfectly safe. You just have to be okay being closeted, which is pretty rough

@BCG1 I’m not sure I follow. If being gay isn’t illegal, just having sex is, why would you have to “be closeted”? Wouldn’t you just have to not hook up with anyone while you’re over there?

I’d take it if such an opportunity was offered to me. Are you getting some type of hazard pay for going there? The gay issue doesn’t bother me so much, one can always be careful. It sounds like an interesting experience and a potentially lucrative opportunity.

SC2 - I didn’t mean you’d have to be closeted for legal reasons, I meant for social ones with clients.

Also, in general, punishment for a foreigner would be deportation

I was stationed in Riyadh for 6 months. Agree with the comments above. But I also managed to have Grindr fun in my hotel. I recommend not having sex with locals though. The culture is toxic — all about dominance and shame. Find some other expats.

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