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I don't think it's a big deal at all. I understand the hesitation to tell you but most friend groups I know of have a ton of "friendcest" so it would be unavoidable. It comes down to confidence in the relationship and being secure in who you are.
Does she have a lot of male friends that she hangs out with? If yes, watch out. If no, it could be that one in a million relationships where they can be friends despite having swapped DNA in the past. You're a guy. How many women do you know that you find attractive and, given no societal constraints, you'd want a purely platonic relationship with?
So she lied but regretted lying about it? She may have been using a form of protective buffering by not telling you the whole truth. If she was sincere about it now, I wouldn't let it get to you. Give her the benefit of the doubt on this issue.
Any girl who says "I just had sex with him. Never had feelings" is lying. Sorry. She slept with him cuz she had feelings for him. Could they go away? Absolutely! Could they come back? Absolutely.
She def has some attachment to that dude. Let her go.
Don't play yourself🔑
She doesn't feel bad about lying. She feels bad she got caught lying
Technically no, but it would bother me. How did she respond when you brought it up?
Answering your question, how should we know what bothers you and doesn't? Usually in these questions you say it "bothers me" and then ask, do I a have a point?
I wouldn't like it at all. I'd tell her how you feel. I certainly wouldn't do that to my s/o. Why the hell does he/she have to hang out with a person he/she slept with in the past when they're dating someone. Blows my mind.hanging out alone is inappropriate hanging out with a group is fine. Hanging out alone is just asking for trouble imo whether you trust the person or not. But hey that's just me.
Yeah. It should bother you. Go date a virgin instead. Less drama, but more clingy.
She probably didn't want to lose that friend (thinking you wouldn't want her hanging out with him) and didn't want to lose you either. She's dating you (and has been) and not dating him. If she slept with him while you were dating, then yes it should bother you.
Honestly I wouldn't be okay with it if my SO slept with someone who he regularly hangs with especially if he didn't tell me openly. I can understand why she didn't tell you - she was afraid of losing you or him or both. However, if they hang out alone - id say f that. If they hang out in a group - I would still be a little iffy about it. If they got drunk together - oh hell no. But if it's someone who we hang out with together (yes the thought would make me cringe) but I would be more comfortable being there when they hang out.
^ wow
^maybe she'll get drunk and end up sleeping with the guy while they are dating. Lol shit happens
They should not be friends.... end of story
Another reason I'm glad I'm gay. No one really gives af.
Someone's defensive of their sex like
Not telling me would bother me. But the friendship itself isn't a problem.
It would bother me. Like I know my SO wasn't a virgin when we met. We talked about our history and exes and all that jazz, but I want it left in the past. I just can't imagine someone else with my SO, it makes me sick. But to be in the presence of someone I know who had? Doesn't sound like a good time.
Plus, I dont understand how someone is "just friends" with a previous hookup? How does that work? Ive slept with girls I've been dating and done 1 night stands. After each had ran its course, I've never felt compelled to stay in contact with that person (unless I wanted more hookups). Either way, I would never bring a girl around my fiancé who I had slept with. Just out of respect.
Was she dating him or just a hook up? I would be bothered either way, but more so if she had had feelings for him.