Been spending a lot of overtime hours with a coworker and I'm developing feelings. How do I ask them out without getting MeTooed?

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I think it’d be better to just avoid it. Regardless of how it turns out it’ll get weird at the office.

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Just ask them out. If they say no, then back away from the topic. MeToo here is when they say no, and you keep pushing.

Although be ready for possible awkwardness later on at work.

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Getting metoo'd is about harassment. It's possible to have a civil conversation and even a failed fling without making someone feel bad or taken advantage of. Leave comfortable exits, don't push it, no sexy stuff out the gate, etc etc.

Or do the smart thing and don't even risk it. Plenty of fish in the sea, no need to go for the ones you'd be stuck being around if things don't work out at any given stage. Where to meet people if you're working overtime? You're not working 24/7. Use your few free hours to live a fun life outside work. Find hobbies, make friends with similar interests, let the new friend group introduce you to someone.

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Have they given any indication that they're developing feelings too? I would hold off and see if things develop more naturally, rather than going too quick and having things end up potentially really awkward.

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How well do you know them?

Odds are that they'll want to handle this professionally either way. However, you may not want to deal with it if that's not their inclination.

For the most part, you'll probably want to be transparent and respect boundaries more than romantic. The key message is "This is an opportunity, but if you'd like to turn it down, your life will continue without harm or retaliation and we will continue to act effectively as coworkers"

Odds are, if you try, you may still strike out due to the same risk. It is also not a bad idea to see if there are other fish in the sea.

TBH, I think your bigger risk ISN'T while asking them out, it's the breakup.

oh gosh, I have a real issue with the MeToo movement. I feel like it's a bunch of privileged women looking for attention. I doubt asking a coworker out is the same as accusing a billionaire of misconduct.

The only good time to ask someone out that you work with is when you or they are leaving the company.

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