{ "media_type": "text", "post_content": "Been texting with someone long distance last few months after random hook up. They have been begging to see me since (my city or theirs). Recently I voiced I'd come to them and they respond with", "post_id": "5e2fd2a85c5e90001a553620", "reply_count": 13, "vote_count": 1, "bowl_id": "59e88be7e2808e00149b0443", "bowl_name": "Women In Consulting", "feed_type": "bowl" }

Been texting with someone long distance last few months after random hook up. They have been begging to see me since (my city or theirs). Recently I voiced I'd come to them and they respond with

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

They prob found someone else.

like

He responded casually, as your casual situation. Since you’re reading into it, I’m hoping that you don’t have high expectations of the situation and if you do, make sure he is aligned before you put it more effort.

like

Gosh everyone “reads into” texts way too much when the honest answer is - we all kinda suck at communicating and texts don’t convey context in our heads. If you want to see the person again, either be direct and say you’d like to visit them or be direct and ask if they want to see you again

like

Maybe they think that now that they have this Saturday commitment they won't have time for you if you come. Maybe ask about the commitment and be like " or I guess if you have xyz every Saturday maybe it's best to wait till you free up?" And see if they push back to insist you come

like

"You're welcome to come!" How to interpret this? I want to ask what changed but not sure how it will be received...

Or - reading too into it?! #help

I wouldn’t put in the effort based on what you are outlining, they seem ambivalent. If they want to see you, they come. Don’t hang high hopes on this one.

I had a one night stand with a hot lawyer at a wedding once. He kept texting me and texting me and I was like okay, maybe this is a real thing? He lived in Boston and I lived in dc. So I was like okay, I’ll flex trip out to you and he was like “yea, that could be fun, I’ll see if I’m free (something totally Luke warm like that) so I didn’t bother responding since I was confused and thought I’d let him come back to me if he really wanted to see me again. Never did and never talked to him again.

I honestly think he kept texting me because he felt guilty about a one night stand. Whereas I was recently single and could have cared less haha. That or he just like someone to text with. Was super strange to me.

He’s texting you to keep you on the line and “begging” to see you because he wants to continue hooking up! It’s fun, it’s flirty, why not? Doesn’t mean he’s actually interested in progressing the relationship, which it sounds like you have hopes for?

Additional Posts in Women In Consulting

Looking for experienced AR callers.

like

Has anyone heard about Elfonze Technologies?
I have an offer from them. Should go?

like

Toronto! But don't call it "the 6ix" 😒

like

How much does FTI Consulting pay S1 associates in FDD? Would also be curious how much they pay M1 as well. MCOL preferred but anywhere would be good to know.

like

Scale 1-10 (10 being “tear my hair out bad”), how badly do you procrastinate?

Hear bunch of quick h1 approvals. Can you respond with specialization/ role title n processing center ? I think STEM folks going through while MBA s arenot

like

Can i buy a rucksack under wellbeing allowance?

like
like

Everyone has a number. How much would you have to be paid to work on the Trump 2020 campaign?

like

I’m in the Continuous Improvement area in a Manufacturing place and I’m making about $65k/year. Should I start job hopping or consider change my career?

like

My husband and I want to take a year off. But I don’t want to leave Deloitte I love it. How do I go about not quitting?

like

What is the average salary of SAP Consultant with 3 years experience in Singapore?

like
like

Hi I got the offer from OCI and uploaded all the documents and also selected the laptop. After accepting the offer letter I have shared my joining date to HR. After somedays I got a email from OCI senior management computer generated email with Oracle Cloud links.

Below are the questions I have
1. I did not get any joining date letter. Do we get it? I asked for 18th April as my joining date.
2. Did not get any other emails about onboarding and how the Onboarding process takes place in OCI?

like

Tips for growing out hair besides regular trims? Haircut suggestions for growing out a Bob?

like

New to the Google interview process. It seems like pay negotiation comes last, but when is the appropriate time to ask about Level? (L5, L6, ...) Non-eng role.

like

Sub-letting my studio apartment in gold cost (Dearborn and Maple). Lease goes until September. Furnished or I can move my furniture out. Apartment was remodeled last summer.

Who here has been laid off? How did you bounce back?

like

Additional Posts (overall)

Impulsively jumped firms for better projects. I want to get pregnant & settle down. Worried I sabotaged ops to transfer internally so soon or fear need to get local gig & how my resume looks. 😬

Omg. A full detail cleaning service is the ultimate self care. My house is so clean, it's like Buckingham palace.

likefunny

Each WEEK speeds by really quickly but the YEAR itself seems to be going by really slowly. Anyone else feel this way?

like

Anyone else just feel constantly drained and sleepy/tired? I feel like I could take a 100 naps and still sleep some more 😴

like

Has any one ever asked a female leader to be a mentor? If so what did that look like for you?

I’m thinking of asking someone but tbh I’m scared....

like

I need advice. I’ve been through abuse, constant. Verbal and physical growing up. I’ve dated horrible men. I can be a horrible judge of people. And I don’t know how to love. I know I’m broken. Contd..

like

Anyone go to open houses just for fun? I’m not quite ready to buy but I love to look around 😍 I’m also using it as a learning opportunity to know what to ask when I’m ready to buy

like

What age did you go through egg freezing? I’m almost 35 with no boyfriend in the near sight. I read I’ll lose half of the current eggs in this process. True? Anyone else here that went through this? Thank you

like

In my new project, I’m struggling with a mgr who - assumes I know what he needs, has unrealistic expectations and no sense of work life balance. He gets angry when I try to leave around 6:30/7. Cont

like

Lawyers and consultants are matches made in heaven. Who better to understand your antsy ass than another anal retentive insecure overachiever who, too, suffers from night sweats over late timesheets

likefunny

Started onboarding for a gig assignment 2 weeks ago that I voluntarily accepted. After getting a taste of the new work + performing my full-time responsibilities, I’ve decided to meet with the gig manager tomorrow to let her know I don’t want to continue. I’ve been feeling burnout and mentally capped because of COVID fatigue and WFH. Feeling anxious about sharing my decision and need advice on how to approach the conversation. Thanks!

like

Dog moms - how do you manage your time?? (I’m sure this applies 10x to moms with human babies, but my goal is to get a dog). I was dog sitting for a friend today and even though I had nothing too crazy going on, she is a big commitment! IDK if consulting is conducive to having a dog 🥺

like

How long do you wait for a date before calling it quits? My first time date showed up 20 minutes late, and I chose not to continue with the date. Was I wrong?

like

Planning to move to Canada in a year through the Express Entry program. Currently working at Accenture Strategy in India (2 years work experience) with MBA from one of the top universities in the country. Not sure if I'll be able to get an internal transfer. Anyone here who has made a similar move? What worked best for you in terms of job search?

like

When my boyfriend talks about a challenge / problem hes having, after hes done I chime in and give my opinion - ex: boyfriend has a choice of 2 bosses, he tells me his approach and I tell him mine (that complements his but expanded). His response is always negative - “why do you always have to give your opinion?” “Why can’t you just listen” “I wasnt looking for a solution from you, just wanted someone to hear this…I’m so used to helping my friends and family but he doesnt want to hear this..why?

like

How to convince a stubborn husband to go to couples counseling, he’s always refused. Says he can’t be changed and doesn’t understand the upside of having a mediator to communicate.

like

Ladies, after how many dates did you start initiating them with your SO? Just had my second date with a great guy. I invested too soon in my last relationship so I’m trying to do this in a healthier way.

like

Some of those spoiled kids with no manners really make me think that being a tiger mom is necessary to avoid adding burden to our society and the entire human race.

likefunny

Hi ladies, in need of perspective. My sister & one of our close friend’s birthday overlap. I decided to treat them to a trip. I covered travel & shelter cost and asked they just take care of their own meals . Ofc I let them know this before and we were all cool. We had an amazing time! It was so fun and a trip to remember! At the end of the trip, the day before our flight home my friend asked me to send her the flight information.

like

Ladies - how do you “ghost” a guy? Do you just stop replying to texts?

uplifting

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
Download Fishbowl to see what others are saying
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the Fishbowl app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy.

Already have an account? Log in

New to Fishbowl?

image with Fishbowl logo and arms reaching out for a handshake

Already have an account? Log in

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy.
Messaging rates may apply

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal