Been with a girl for few months, really enjoyed moments that we shared together and barely got into any fights. But, somehow somewhat, I don’t see that we share the same vision in our career path. She wants to settle for administration roles while I want work & travel to multiple countries, really hard for her to find those opportunities within her current roles. I like her personality a lot but I feel like really hard to share interesting topics/ my works with her. Any advice please?
If you like her, it shouldn’t matter what she wants to do with her career. If she supports you while you are traveling and working. That’s all that really matters. If you are unable to share things with her, that’s more of a you problem. Fact is you’ve said you like her personality. If that’s the case, there really isn’t an issue. Unless there is something else we are not privy to.
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Your post is mixing a lot of topics. If you like the girl and she is supportive of your career path and you are supportive of hers, there should be no issue.
It sounds like you are not supportive of hers. You want someone who is more ambitious. Someone who can work in every country you travel to and someone who you want to discuss your work with.
Relationships don’t work that way. As a matter of fact someone who doesn’t do what you do helps balance a relationship which is why you don’t get into fights. You don’t want your spouse advising you when you’re venting. And work is the last thing you should discuss.
Your spouse is your #1 career choice. I think it’s important to find someone who either shares your vision or supports you. Over time as your career gets harder, you will need to be able to share those topics with her and she will need to understand them and support you or you won’t feel like you have the support system you need. Support takes a few forms - absorbing the shocks when your hours are busy, providing the understanding when you have career shocks, and helping you navigate on a daily basis.
So good thing is you recognize the gap. Now the question is: can you accept and live with that or not.
I can tell you that personally my spouse has really accelerated my career because they understand my needs, push me to be better, never complain about long hours and help me navigate the bumps. My career wouldn’t be 30% of what it is without them.
May I ask what your age group is?
I know your career should not be the biggest influencer in your relationship. But we cant deny that it is a huge part of you, your future and your life. So if you think she is not fully aligning or engaging with your career goals, I would suggest either reconsidering the relationship, or reprioritizing how much you want her to be interested in your career’s topics. Do you have other big and important topics she is aligning with? Like family, finances, hobbies planing, etc?