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Been with my bf for 10 months. Been on a work from home role for over a year. Mentioned to him that I want to travel for my next role. He was not happy. How do I balance my career and relationship?

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If he isn’t being supportive of your career then dump his ass. Ain’t nobody got time for that! You do you and be the career motivated independent woman that you want to be 🙌🏻

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Some people don't want to date travelers. That's not a crime and is a legitimate preference. Don't stifle yourself for someone who isn't worth it, but yes it may be a barrier

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Take him with you. I take my dog when I travel!

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Yeah. Wouldn't it almost be more concerning if they were all "get you out of the house five nights a week? FUCK YA!"

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Are you going to be happy if you travel? If your happiness while traveling is >>>> than being with him than I wouldn't let his unhappiness affect anything

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Why do you want to travel? I’d be annoyed to if you wanted to travel without a specific need to. If you’re really excited about a project or it’ll help with career development, and it’s a travel project, that’s a much more compelling story than just wanting to travel and that meaning you’ll be away from him 4-5 days/week for months

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It's all about balance! And if you care enough about each other and you work together you can make it work, in my opinion

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Be single forever

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I've started traveling since I got into this, been 6 years now. It took my bf a while to get used to me being gone, but we talk almost every night, and I make sure he gets to take advantage of my traveling perks (upgraded hotels/ flights during vacation). He's also started to find hobbies as other activities to enjoy without me during the week as well. Actually sometimes when I work from home during the week he doesn't like me messing up his schedule lol. I suggest you have a candid talk with your bf, help him understand why you want to do this. Explain what a typical week would look like and ofc try to spend as much of weekend with him as possible.

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Ask yourself if you would be as understanding if said mentioned that he wanted to travel regularly for his career. You probably would. He should understand the desire to experience different things in your career. Might be an insecurity of his hat he needs someone around constantly. Have a serious convo, you'll make it work if it's worth it.

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What a loser

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I'm in a similar situation but with MUCH longer relationship and WFH arrangement. This all depends entirely on context. For me, the travel isn't the goal but is necessary to better align to a growing industry that will give be a better path toward partner, which we agree is better for us both longer term. And his initial fear was I'd be leaving Sundays and returning Fridays, which wouldn't be workable, but I explained that'll actually be Mon-Thurs, much more manageable, and not forever. Context matters, as does clear communication.

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You’re allowed to travel again ACN?

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Quit

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My bf works 100% remote and is dying for me to find remote work so we can travel - I'm definitely working on that goal. Gotta have similar goals in your priority zones in your life - work, lifestyle, whatever you can't compromise on

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