Best Bollywood songs for a fairly white wedding? My best friend getting married ( both of them are white) but she loves bolly music. Best recs? I came up with jalebi baby, urvashi and Mundiya so far 😵‍💫

I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place. I’m 34 not happy with my earnings after being in this field since 18. I can’t seem to advance even though I’m educated and experienced. I could go back to school for nursing and do well. School would probably take 2-3 years. My goal is to have a great career and not struggle financially. Now my husband who is 46 says let’s have a baby. Going to school will delay or potentially turn into me not having the family I always wanted. I feel I have to choose.

Looking to relocate, we're house hunting right now. Which would be a better neighborhood? We're an active, child-free couple. Solana Beach or Gaslamp Quarter, or Downtown?

Planning to move back to our hometown before the baby is due which would make me about 6-7 months (move in April, due date is early July). Is it worth it to try and find a new job the last couple months of pregnancy or should I use that time to settle in to our new place before baby arrives? I just feel bad that my hubby will have to be the only provider for that long of a period. I am an RN.

Baby carrier recommendations? I got the infantino but the padding on the shoulders isn’t great quality

Did anyone else adopt the new Florida Wonders curriculum? We just adopted it this school year, and I teach 4th grade. My team and I have not found a good flow, schedule, or whatever you want to call it. We feel like it teaches too many skills in one lesson, and we are not able to truly teach anything “deep” enough for students to master. Does anyone have any insight? What do you do? Do you like the curriculum? Why or why not? Would you be willing to share what you do weekly/daily? Thanks!

I’m seeing a big uptick in industry opportunities and have confirmed that with a few recruiters. Any thoughts if we will continue to see opportunities through next Spring? Debating on leaving now versus leaving in the Spring to take advantage of EYs favorable maternity / paternity leave benefits. Plus there would be a cost of changing insurance and the deductibles restarting this year. Thoughts?

Anyone experiencing depression? I did a self assessment, and scored 2.5/5. Extreme fatigue, loss of joy and some level of loss of appetite ( not really experiencing prolonged sadness and trouble sleeping). If you are, are you seeking professional help? I’m 12 weeks pregnant. Had one serious depression episode during week 7, but has been getting better since. This week I feel like I’m getting back into the darkness again though. Is this gonna get better past trim1 or not really?

Would you date someone who lives outside the US and doesn't have citizenship? If so, do you worry that they might be using you for citizenship?
I am 1st gen dating someone from parent's motherland, but everyone keeps bringing this topic up (10+anecdotes) and warning me. I am hopeless romantic and would like to think otherwise 😕

What is a useful, comprehensive but not too long of a book for parenting toddlers?

LO is 16 months old, very sweet and social, at the park every day with other kids with either me or her nanny. Not in day care. Yesterday we had a play date and she slapped another baby on the head. Not hard and did not scare her, but the act of “aggression” took me by surprise and I felt terrible about it. I’d like to be more proactive about toddler psychology, what’s to come and how to react/ teach. TY!

Planning on a kid.. is this the right time considering the pandemic? I’m 33 and don’t want to miss the bus.

What level of employment is your spouse required to maintain in order for an EY employee to utilize the 16 weeks of paternity leave? Is part time sufficient? Contract/free lance/self-employee?

Ladies I'm panicking. 41, 13 days late but not pregnant. Confirmed at dr office today but they only took a urine test. I'm freaking out that its menopause. Mom had it at 45. Is it possible???

Hey ladies, any advice on starting a new job and sharing your pregnant? I start a new role in a few weeks, I’ll be about 11w when I start and it’s fully remote. Any advice on how to share / when? This is my 4th round of IVF (no children) and I’ve miscarried in the first before so I feel like I wasn’t sure if this is/will be something I need to share but things are progressing well and I’m not sure what to expect. I’d like to wait till around 20w or so if possible, is that bad?

Iam 5 month pregnant , thinking to get release from project due to health issue and taking maternity leave from april 1st, at this situation can I be in bench for 3 months and go in maternity leave ? Will this affect my job in Accenture? Will the organization allow to be in bench for 3 months? If iam in bench during maternity leave will i get variable pay

Is it safe to pain your nails while pregnant?

Started this bowl because I unexpectedly lost a parent years ago and it still affects me to this day. Wanted to create a safe space, ie a group where people who are going through similar experiences can vent and realize you’re not alone (: welcome to the party!

Hi girls,

I joined the current company when I was about 2 months pregnant and they were extremely welcoming.. My baby is now 2+ years and we are planning to have another baby soon. What are your views on opting for the maternity leaves 2nd time within 3.5 years of joining the company? Would it reflect badly on me? Btw, I'm a high perfomer at my company and have also had a promotion recently. I am feeling too guilty but baby no.2 is also a priority given the age factor and the fertility concerns

I'm curious if other professionals at the analyst level think is too young to have a kid. I got married young, and my wife and I want to start a family. Second year FWIW

Sleep train or not? Any moms who did NOT sleep train and it worked out fine?

The more I read the more bullish I am on LTC. Anyone who doesn’t believe in LTC, has some -ve technical points? Would love to hear.

Recently got an offer from Natwest. Do they also offer shift allowances when a person works other than general shift?

Hey Fishes,

I've got the Sodexo meal card email this morning. Can someone pls shed some light on the benefits. Thanks..!!

What Salary one can expect. For band 9?

We made it past Hump Day!

What do you do to unwind and destress during the work week?

Hi,

How much hike one can expect after 2 years of joining oracle India (IDC)? And how is the work in EPM Product development division?

Oracle

How is the flexible component in Brillio? Is it paid out monthly ?

A coworker of mine briefly mentioned that it’s the absolute size of short positions that matters, opposed to the relative size. Was she right?

Anyone know of buildings here that have 1 bedroom plus an office/den? I don’t even know how to search for that on StreetEasy

I'm not going to get back 5 hours of my life.

Watched "Indian Matchmaking". Full of incredulous stereotypes that I abhor. Indian here, btw.

Anyone know how JPM's maternity leave policy compares with other firms?

How much rent you are showing while living in tier 2 city with parents while doing work from home?

I made calculations and I can show upto 24000 pm as rent to gain max hra benifit. But should I be doing it ? Such high rent in tier 2 city ?

Please only those who are already availing HRA reply to this.

Anyone ever been to the new Westin in Jekyll island?

Hi Team,
Could you please refer in your company?
CCTC : 12.47 LPA(fixed)
YoE : 8.3
Skill : Functional Test Lead
Current Company : PwC India

If you go for interview and you sort of know that the person interviewing you might be curious about something on your negative on your resume like why is there a gap or why were you in XX role for so long?

Do you address it pre-emptively? Or does that show insecurity and you leave the elephant in the room and wait till they ask you?

I guess this is more in the case of networking than interview like do you make your own story?

First time poster here!

After spending 4 years as a mid-level ops manager, I tried to break into HR through talent acquisition. Now after 6 years in TA, I've had a hard time getting out of it. My goal was always to get into a more broad HRBP position, but I've since worked for smaller orgs without a solid HR career path. When I ask about my career goals, they keep telling me, "Soon!" Or "Maybe in 6 months!"

I'm testing SPHR in June. Any advice for securing the type of role I'm aiming for?

I am on a conditional 2 year GC. Anyone have have any issues joining a new job during this phase? There is a expiry date for next year but I would file 6mo in advance to remove conditions. Also, would it be a problem if the SS card states valid with DHS authorization?

Why isn’t Rahul Gandhi married yet? My inner Seema Auntie wants to know.
He spent some time at Harvard with my friend’s older brother who is now fifty. He left Harvard because Rajiv Gandhi was killed.

Friends,
A relative has been diagnosed with early Alzheimers.
Is anyone aware of good resources to read up on it. We are obviously doing our research but thought just check with this community if people have encountered this before and can guide here.

Anyone here has used Saregama Carvaan and comment on if the product is good? Looks perfect and I am thinking of gifting one to my parents.

This is exactly why no agricultural reforms took place in the last 50 years. It was political hara kiri to do anything meaningful. You incentivize farmers in two states to grow rice and wheat with zero linkage to market demand. Then buy it up at above market prices and store it in godowns where it rots for decades because no there’s demand for those amounts. Farmers keep flooding their lands using free electricity to grow rice and causing a slow motion ecological disaster to the water table

Why is everyone here so triggered by the White Tiger? That’s how the majority of India lives, please get outside your white collar bubbles. And stop saying “the media always shows poverty”, they also released shows like Bollywood Wives and Indian Matchmaking.

Have we watched “For here or to go” on Netflix yet? So so relatable to our lives here in the US. Very well executed.

Any desis here who have a base office in city x but live in city b. From an h1b perspective, I had some questions.

My mom wants to take seeds of cherry and avocado home. How do I stop her from doing it? Is that even legal? 🤡