Best business casual shoes for men for the office? Also business casual shirts?

How do I manage working with a small team of teachers that are all best friends? I work in a community that is very "born here, die here" and I'm the outsider!

Do your 1:1s with your manager become therapy sessions? Or is it just me..

I work at a ‘free market’ firm and have developed a very good reputation among partners. Naturally, they are drowning me in work. Each time a new case comes up, the partner will email asking if I have “time and interest” in helping. When I’m at capacity, I take these words at face value and explain why I can’t do it, and that seems to work out ok with no hard feelings. But what’s the “interest” thing? If I don’t want to work on a toxic tort case, do I just say that and pass?

Since we returned to office in October, is it appropriate to give holiday gifts to team members?

My ASM is annoying. she calls me 3x a day just for me to repeat myself again and again when she has access to calendar, access to all my live metrics & end of day report, she also holds weekly meeting to go over current projects we are assigned to, and joins all of our project meetings with the account leaders..for what exactly? I’ve told her over and over that what she is asking for is reflected in my EOD and metrics report but she is too lazy and don’t want to read or listen during meetings.

What are some good books to read if I want to learn how to better show up for the team as a manager?

So I have to work with another Manager who is new at the firm and doesn't know IT Audit and only name drops the partners he knows. I'm this close to refusing to work with him. Should i?

Really need to talk to someone because I feel trapped. Politics have left me with 3 options: quit the firm, ruin my brand and say something, suck it up and continue to get hurt. Can't talk to RP/coach

Is anyone else trying to find the balance between being for the company and for the employees?
I've been told I'm too much in favour of the employees when I'm defending the lower-paid employees, or talking about employee well-being, but somehow it's ok when the higher-ups go out of their way to give the higher-paid employees financial assistance, or to allow toxic managers to continue in their positions because their feelings shouldn't be hurt.
Be honest, fellow HR folx, am I too idealistic?

Hello fellow PMs - Any recommendations on how to get a client who is borderline obsessed with sending emails with ‘high priority’ red explanation point to stop this behavior? It’s counterproductive and had set the wrong expectation with my team on what the focus should be. I’ve managed expectations with my team, but still having a hard time getting the point across to the client.

I recently took a job with a top tier investment manager, which is a step up in title and responsibilities. I went through the typical “notice” conversations with my current employer. My boss, who was a significant supporter and mentor of me during my time at my current firm, told me that he doesn’t think my new firm is “long term” for me. Anyone ever get something like this before? It threw me off because I was hoping for his support, understanding that it’s tough for him temporarily

How do you know when its time to leave a firm because of the way a partner(s) is/are treating you vs. if you’re just being sensitive and emotional? Through an email, I feel a partner attacked my work ethic when I’ve been staying up until 2-3am for his case.

I appreciate you all! Thanks for being here.

My favorite Manager thanked me often. Since they transferred to a different office, their replacements have never once thanked me, I feel underappreciated and my feelings are hurt. Remember it's the small things that can make a big difference.

I hate my job. Absolutely despise it. Wake up/go to sleep every day with a heavy dread for the future. Grind my teeth in my sleep. Gaining weight. Blood pressure spikes whenever my phone goes off. Becoming unable to hide my disdain for coworkers and clients on calls, emails, etc. Have a loving and supportive partner but feel like I can't relate to her at all because she enjoys her work. I don't want to go back to my post-graduation poverty but damn, at least I felt like I was a real person.

Thinking of adopting a blue heeler, are they really not child friendly in general? They look so cute and snuggly whenever I see them IRL.

I worked in industry for close to 15 years and then moved into consulting. I hear a lot of consultants, who clearly have no industry experience, complaining about how rough it is. The complaining makes them sound so entitled and it makes me lose so much respect for them.

I am a field marketer. I travel and cover 12 states. HQ is across the US on the east coast. My manager put a surprise calendar invite twice now to go to home office without consulting dates to see if we were available. I stood up and asked to be included on available dates and said I will attend virtually but asking me to be away for 4 additional full days away from my family without asking me is not OK. I already travel a lot and this boundary is super important to me. Am I right or wrong?

I set up my boss to take on a client that I planned to steal from her. She thought she was using me but I was using her. When she asked me to prepare statements of work, I drafted it with my resume in mind. When she asked me to set pricing, I priced it at my desired salary. When she pawned the work off to me, I nonchalantly took point. Then slowly and surely, I made myself indispensable to the client. I can’t wait to tell her that the foundation’s offer is priced above her salary. Checkmate.

Any thoughts on how do we deal with an incompetent boss who you dont look up to and have no trust that you would ever get credit for the work you would do for him/her? Given that changing the boss is not an option.

We know some jurisdictions out there still have rules that think the digital age is the same as it was in the 90’s, so with how much work is being done remotely lately, what are your biggest ethics concerns? Have any ridiculous ethics opinions that have made you facepalm at how dated our practice can be sometimes?

Have an offer letter from EXL. Just as I was about to accept it I got a better compensation offer from other company. How to renegotiate with EXL? What to say?

I've always had trouble with things like attention, focusing, and feeling constantly overwhelmed. I started to feel hopeless, feeling burnt out (even worse than my old job). I spend hours diverted when I know I should get work done. I decided to get an evaluation after learning a lot more about ADHD. I was diagnosed as Primarily Inattentive and they are starting me on meds immediately. Will things get better from here? Will, I finally become a productive human being? Should I tell my manager?

Oh, the joy of Creative Directors who don’t give actual feedback and can’t give straight answers to a question.

Hi. I had my HR discussion today .so till when i can expect the offer letter ?

In the offer letter it is written NSR is mandatory. Is it true they will ask to do that. I am a lateral hire

Looking to renew my lease on my 2bedroom/1bath. My roomie is leaving the country :(. Luxury building with all the amenities (doorman, gym, roof deck). Rent is 2300. Let me know if interested!

I literally just stepped in human feces on the J train. Wtf is wrong w people

NYC, anyone looking for a great new (old) car? 2008 Audi A3, lots of miles but great condition. $3.8k. Available immediately.

Anyone interesting in buying a pair of Doc Marten Boots or Salomon XT6s? US men’s sz 10. Both completely brand new, looking to sell local to avoid shipping and fees

So the traffic to ORD is on another level today. What the hell is going on?

What’s a good sports bar in south loop ?

As someone who grew up in the tropics and doesn’t know snow, whats the threshold to determine whether it is safe to drive in the snow or whether you are risking it?

Which insurer has the largest PPO (most in network) in Chicago?

1 br / 1 bt unit available for rent from Nov 1st. Location - River North (A block from Trader joe’s and two blocks from Whole Foods). Asking price - $1,500. DM me for more details.

Hello All,

I am Structural analysis Engineer with 14 yoe in stress analysis of Steam and Gas Turbines and many other mechanical components. i have strong experience in CAE tools like Ansys and Nastran. I am also good at python programming and scripting languages. I am looking for a job change. if any one here can help me with referral at Siemens, ALSTOM , Honeywell , Ansys , ALTAIR ,will be much appreciated. pls help

Hey Fishes,


I cleared all rounds in PWC.
Now my HR going to discuss about expectations. What should I quote to the HR?

CCTC: 6.6
YOE: 2
Tech stack: Cyber Security

Request you to help.

Looking to make a move to NYC but wanting to find some Creative connections in the city to get a feel for the shops there. Would anyone be interested in DMing about opportunities?

Has anyone faced 221G during USA H1B visa process?

Are there any parents of young kids (toddler age or a little older) that actually feel somewhat well-rested? What’s your secret? What do you outsource? My partner and I both work in boutique/bordering-on-big-law-firms and our billing requirements are somewhat reasonable, not astronomical. We have a 15 month old (who usually sleeps through the night now), and we outsource a lot: full time nanny (45 hrs a week), housekeeper 1x/wk, and often instacart groceries. Still perpetually exhausted

In order for me to meet bonus this year i need to bill ~190hrs every month - given im unsure whether i will have enough work stream is trying worth it? 🤪 i normally bill less than 145

Any thoughts on Lowenstein Sandler’s M&A / Finance practices?

Anyone know how average equity partner salaries tend to break down by group at a non-lockstep firm? E.g., I’d guess successful M&A partners make the most on average, but don’t really have a sense of how lucrative different areas might be relative to each other.

How long of a commute would you consider to be too long? First year associate trying to balance convenience with living more frugally to save up some more money.

How hard is it for an associate to get fired in big law solely based on low billable hours? How many years do they need to be low? How many chances do they get? How low is too low for a second chance the following year? This is assuming quality of work is historically good and not their fault they have little work.

Which surveys are worth filling out for "super lawyers," "best lawyers," etc.? Do any of them actually mean anything?

Anyone else feeling trapped and thinking about going back to school to get another degree to do something different?

Part time/alternative schedule associates: how many hours do you bill and how much do you make? Potentially interested in going this route.

Anyone have experience with Dechert in Philly they’d be willing to share? In particular the antitrust/white collar group? Would be curious to hear about culture/assignments/hours, but interested to hear any experience.

Anyone has information on how much first year lawyers make in big immigration law firms like Fragomen? Does it make a difference if you had prior experience in the field as a paralegal?

If you join a firm in October last year and that October to September of the following year is the period they take to calculate hours for bonus eligibility, will the bonus requirement be pro rated at all (considering it takes a while for hours to ramp up for a lateral)?

When is the best time to mention a clawback provision to a new firm? During the interview when they ask “how soon can you start”? Or after you get an offer?

The clawback doesn’t necessarily prevent me from starting ASAP, but it does affect my start date in some respect & I’d definitely try to negotiate with the new firm to pay all/some of it. For context, the signing bonus is low/mid 5-figures. Thoughts?

I am a rising second year corporate associate in big law. I have my first annual review with the departments chairs and managing partner coming up. What should I do to prepare? What questions should I ask and what questions should I be prepared for? This is my first time going through this process so any advice is really appreciated!

Anyone at AO California?

For big law associates in Atlanta or other SE cities — are you working the 200-250 hour months, month after month like those in northern cities? Are you working most weekends? Trying to gauge if it’s a little better being in big law in the south.