Best friend got promoted. I didn't. Happy for him, but finding it hard to take. Anyone else had this? How do you get past the mixed emotions?

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Make him buy drinks until your promotion

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Don't compare vs others compete vs yourself. There may be bs decisions but focus on yourself, your perception by decision makers, and the work you do

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I used to be a bit jealous that my best friend was doing slightly better (higher salary, interesting work, etc), but then he recent got laid off and I feel super shitty about it. Just remember that you'd rather see your friend doing well than getting in trouble. Otherwise, why be friends?

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I don't understand why friendship and work have to be related. You are evaluated based on your group, network and performance and so is your friend. If you are a top performer I m sure u ll get it next year

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May not be best friend than!

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It can be hard. But you'd want him to be happy for you when you get promoted. So think about that maybe.

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That sucks.. Don't feel any lesser than him and don't avoid him with the fear you will feel awkward.. Be genuinely happy and I am sure he will work too to get you there next year

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Stay in your own swim lane OP.

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I feel you, P. I didn't feel this with my best friend, we work in different practice groups, but I did with my colleagues. I wasn't resentful of them, just sad for myself and didn't send the congrats note I normally would.
But 2 months later I'm so happy for and proud of them. I'm back to doing my thing too. You sound like you are like me, and I think you will get over it soon :-). Maybe it's thinking about how awesome they are and not making it about me.
Good luck with working towards promotion or making changes this year!

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Try some glenlevit on the rocks

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Get over it. Do your job, focus on you and it will come. In the grand scheme of things a year is not that big a difference. Be a good friend and be happy for him.

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^Lochte reference? Too soon 😜

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Happened to me. Wasn't best friend but the person and I were very cool. You have to remember there is no science to consulting. Everyone has their own story so you can't judge because it's never apples to apples.

Man, that's though. I'm usually a hateful prick, god forbid something like this happened...

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