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Bf’s sister is pregnant. Obviously happy for him, but can’t help feel sad that their family will probably not be happy when my time comes. They’re bigots and they hate me. Thinking of breaking up but I’m torn

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Run 🧔🏻

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Run. Really run. His family will not change...and you deserve better.

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My family is Sri Lankan Buddhists. I married a Christian White American. I knew my parents were a bit disappointed at the beginning but they embraced her quickly and I feel like now my mom speaks to my wife more than she speaks to me. I have South Asian friends from many backgrounds and I’ve observed a few things you should consider: 1. How integrated are they with the American culture? Did they move to the US and establish a Muslim bubble around them? 2. Regardless of their religion, how religious are they? Very religious folks (especially if Islamic) it would not be easy. Again, what I observed among my south Asian Muslim friends. 3. I disagree with what you said about your future children. South Asian grandparents tend put their grandkids on pedestals regardless of their background. 4. Given your comment about your grandparents It appears you are coming from a mixed cultural background. If you don’t mind, what is your background/religion? What can you learn from that experience? Did things get better over time? OP, you guys don’t sounds like too far into your relationship, so keep in mind there are always ton of other 🐠 around. Sometimes juice is not worth the squeeze. Good luck!

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Yes, thanks, that makes sense. I have brought parts of this up a couple times, but he doesn’t seem to think the issue is that serious. We started talking about it today but he had to leave, and I’m sure he knows the conversation isn’t over yet

What??? I think we need more info

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I think you need to know where his head is at. Sounds like you’ve seen what he’s been doing with you when they’re around, and you know what he’s like when they’re not, but have you ever talked about this? Have you communicated this frustration and sadness? Is he aware of how hurt you feel and how lonely that hurt can be when his family doesn’t show affection to you? Ask him if he’s aware and what his thoughts are. Be direct, don’t force him to answer right away, but be clear that you want to know how he feels. From there make decisions, but don’t break it off based on hunches or feelings until you communicate with him (a lesson I’ve learned)

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