Biggest regret? I know mistakes teach us lessons and we wouldn’t be who we are without them. But I also believe it’d have been better to avoid some of them. Me for example, trying to make an unhealthy long distance high school to college relationship work for two years. Major regret

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Letting my mental health deteriorate to please other people

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Not being more intentional about keeping in touch with college friends.

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Wish I lived in more faraway places and traveled further when I was younger.

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Not going into the back room with my dog as she was put down. I cry every single time I think about it. She did not like the vet, so I wish I went with her for comfort as she was likely very scared.

The only dog I put down before that LOVED the vet, so she even when she was on death's door she lit up like a chandelier with excitement with the vet and techs, so I don't feel that dog was scared at all in her last moments.

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This was ~10 years ago. My current dog is quite old, and we've already decided we'll be there for his last moments. We've considered even having a mobile vet come to our house since this dog also does not love going to the vet.

My biggest regret is always putting off calling my grandmother and then she got cancer and passed away.

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I frequently called my grandmother but I passed up an opportunity to visit her right before she passed. I regretted it too.

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I should have studied abroad in college

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Moving from SF to a flyover state in the Midwest for a (now ex) SO.

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I honestly can’t think of a regret…. Everything I’ve done has gotten me to where I am today, and I’m quite happy.

However, I’m at a stage in life where I’m actively trying to prevent future regret. I’m trying to balance a career, a family, living life to the fullest, and personal identity. And I can’t help but feel I won’t be able to succeed at all of them… and that scares me.

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My biggest regret is that I placed far too high of a value on the way my peers viewed me when I was young, leading me to live below my potential and wasting my god-given talent, while being well aware of the fact. I have always been seen as a leader but fell into a self-conscious trap at a young age due to my environment, so I found comfort in calmness, calmness being surrounded by ‘yes-men (and women)’ that had no true long-lasting positive effect on my life - I didn’t learn anything useful because I always got what I wanted, and everyone in my life was fine with, or ignorant of, the things that I knew needed to change. It is a heavy regret because I know that I could have led many people that looked up to me to strong personal growth rather than complacency with a mediocre mindset/life. It wasn’t until I realized that, although many may be envious of extreme personal growth/success (such as the majority in my adolescent social circles), there are many others out there that are inspired by a certain set of values & behaviors and I now use my influence to motivate others to live an ethically and morally righteous life. What took me too long to realize was that the size and status of a social circle doesn’t matter, the QUALITY of those with whom YOU choose to associate yourself with is what matters.
A philosophy that really resonates with me is:
Pressure is a privilege.

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