Boyfriend just broke up with me during my lunch break. Any kind words from you ladies. I feel totally broken. I tend to be on the emotional side and I’m trying to prevent myself from crying in office.

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Hang in there, girl! See if you can just leave to back to your hotel room early. You need time to process everything and it won’t happen when you are trying to balance being professional in the workplace. If you have the option, just take off early.

I’m sorry he broke up with you. I don’t have enough background, but can tell you from my experience that time is the biggest healer. Just breathe for now. If you need to chat, feel free to IM!

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Congratulate yourself for being rid of a jackass that would break up with you over lunch on a workday. Find yourself a kinder partner who will treat you like you deserve to be treated!

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And please do not let this wreck your self esteem and self worth! In retrospect I didn’t stop questioning what was wrong with me or why I was not good enough after a particularly horrible breakup in college. I left myself available to him whenever he decided he needed companionship even though he wouldn’t commit. I missed out on a lot I’m sure. Cut the cord! Never look back! You are awesome and will find someone who appreciates you much more!

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I KNOW that feeling, I literally felt it in the pit of my stomach when reading your post. Agree with others- see if you can slip out early, you need some time alone to totally lose it for a bit. Have a glass of wine if that’s your thing (not saying drown yourself in booze) but may help take you down a notch and then put on The Great British Baking Show. 💜💜💜💜

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Wow the women on here are incredible, so glad I’m a woman.

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That’s awful- what a jackass. Any way you can go home/to the hotel? An “allergic reaction” to lunch?

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What would I do without you ladies? Thank you for being such a supportive group! I took everyones advice and left early to take care of me ❤️

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Great British baking show for the win 🤘🏾

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You’re going to get through this ❤️ Go book yourself something to look forward to!! Treat yourself to something your partner didn’t enjoy doing but you always loved or something you haven’t had the time to splurge on in awhile!!

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OP - sorry this happened in the middle of your work day, but you are a smart, capable woman and don’t think otherwise! Take the afternoon/evening off (claim migraine, upset stomach). Go and process this in the way that makes sense to you.

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This too shall pass! ❤️ ❤️

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What an ass! Who does that?!

Now think about that. Would you want to be with somebody who is that big of an ass? No!

So you’re lucky because you just ditched a disaster! Congrats!

Champagne and chocolate is a celebratory order.

Hug.

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Go home or to hotel. You’re no good to work when you’re on the brink of crying.

I’m also an emotional type. I’d want the time to cry in the shower, then order whatever I was craving from room service. Grieve it, OP, it sounds like you really need to.

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It only gets better from here :)

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Ooof in person or on the phone? You been with him long? Only stay at work if you think it’ll keep you distracted, otherwise take some time, everyone will understand ❤️❤️

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So sorry- sending comforting thoughts! Say you’re sick and need to work from home/the hotel if you can. Or take a coffee break to go hide somewhere and cry. It’s best to give yourself time and space to be emotional, especially when it’s fresh. ❤️❤️ and hugs your way. And PS that is a very shitty way to break up with someone- definitely a bad reflection on him. You deserve better

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Obviously you deserve someone better than who breaks up with you over a lunch break. You are not alone, are valuable, there are possibly people out there desiring to make you happy. Future is exciting- focus on yourself and don’t even think about the bruh. That’s his loss.

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It’s hard to see the positive now. Time will tell that you dodged a bullet!!!❣️

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I’m so sorry girl! I totally feel you - I got dump literally before I hopped on my Monday morning flights. There’s never a good time to get broken up with but there sure as hell a better way to do it than in the middle of the work day. Sending tons of hugs and love your way!

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Hang in there... as EY1 posted, this too shall pass... and you’re going to look back on this one day and realize it was the best thing that ever happened to you... 💕

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Just sending you warm thoughts OP, I know that’s rough but please stay positive.

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