Boyfriend's holiday party is on the same day as my holiday party. His allows +1s, mine doesn't. He's upset I plan on going to my own and not his. Reasonable or no?

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If you want to go to yours for legitimate career reasons, you have a point. If it's purely social then you should pick the option that allows you to be together. Especially if you travel, he's probably onto something

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OP, what kind of holiday party doesn't allow +1s? I know the PwC ones do so it's a surprise that S&s doesn't. That is honestly the #1 weirdest part of this. I want to believe you for the purpose of this post, but that's just absurd.

Part two is his party allows +1s. The easy solution is to go to his party and have a fun time together. How would you feel if your bf went to a NYE party that you weren't invited to when you had another party lined up you could both go to? I feel like it's reasonable for him to feel hurt by this.

Also, back to part 1, how is S& having holiday parties without +1s? What about all the married managers/directors/partners? That sounds seriously so off I can't get over it.

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Don’t lie there is a cute coworker you want to see

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I’m honestly surprised with the responses here. You’d prefer hanging out with coworkers than your own boyfriend?

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Reasonable. the BF needs to relax it’s not like it’s his birthday party or anything

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Partner here. I skip our holiday party every year because they don’t allow +1s

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Jesus all you people putting “networking” for a couple hours at an event with hundreds of people above relationship development during the holiday season

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Reasonable IMO - he should understand your desire to celebrate the holidays with your co-workers, just as he wants to do with his

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It's one thing to be slightly upset but it's another to say stupid shit like "you prefer hanging out with your coworkers than with me". That's just manipulative.

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Ngl, if I was industry and my gf was flying all the time, and one of the few times I have a chance to spemd a lot of time and say to my coworkers "heres my SO", she says no, she's going to be with coworkers...

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Isn’t there an option to do both? How far are they from each other? Put in appearance at yours to network and then join at his

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Yeah, gotta go with your boyfriend on this one. In this line of work we get enough time apart with people from work. If there is an opportunity to be together, you should take it.

Unless you are just not that into him.

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Definitely a cute coworker situation

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Reasonable. I’d be annoyed too unless you have a very solid reason to not attend his. This of course assumes he also works for a “worthwhile” company. If it’s just a no name shit firm, it’s more beneficial for you to go to yours as your networking opportunities will carry more weight.

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Hmm I see what a lot of you are saying. I just feel like because it's a holiday party and is not that important/that much time in the grand scheme of things, I should be allowed to want to hang out with my friends for a few hours. If they weren't on the same day, I feel like he wouldn't have an issue with me going. And if I were allowed +1s, I wouldn't expect him to come to mine over his...

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😞 No ulterior motives here. PwC NY doesn't have +1s for the holiday party starting from last year (I know, it's weird)

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He has a point if it’s important to him.

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Drop me a burner. Your BF can take my spot this year

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Boohoo tell him to get over it.

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^ if its about relationship development over the holidays, the bf should propose a mutual solution, where they both skip and instead have a date night...

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