Breakup alert, could use some support.

Ended things with my situationship. Long time fwb and got very close the last year. Live together when he visits for 2 weeks at a time, met his friends, etc. Had a convo about actually dating and he says he doesn’t think he’d be good at long distance.

Feels like we’ve basically been dating in every way but title. He’s one of my best friends and don’t want to lose that, but I have feelings for him and don’t know how to get past that. Any advice?

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Honestly from only what you’ve written here? Sounds like he was sleeping around locally, too, and didn’t want to stop. Are you sure that’s not the case?

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Fairly sure, yes. If anything it’s the opposite, he didn’t date much at all in college, and I think he’s scared of starting a relationship now. Especially long distance. Seems a bit emotionally immature but not in a sleeping around kind of way.

What are you wanting advice with in particular?

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Thanks D1, I think you’re right. Just hard to admit I need the space away. Hurts to feel like I’m pushing my friend away and won’t have him as a support during a kind of stressful time for me. But yes, things can’t continue the way they are

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