Broke up with my Ex (after ~4 years of being together) almost 2 years ago, and we never spoke since then. I met someone right after and we are getting married this summer. Should I inform my Ex about this out of courtesy or is it unnecessary as it might hurt them? (no clue how they are doing or what they are up to nowadays)

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It sounds like you just want to rub it in his face?


OP, did you break up with him? Or did he break up with you? You seem to assume he is still hung up on you. How do you know he hasn’t moved on?


Would you want your ex to “inform” you if the roles were reversed?


I mean this with love, but your question sounds like you’re more committed to the old relationship than you are to your future. Respect your new relationship by leaving the ex in the past! Congrats on your fresh start!! This is so exciting!


No, as you haven't spoken since the breakup


LOL Aren’t we all just the stars of our own Hollywood movies??

Let your ex be, they clearly moved on. You should too


Short version: no
Long version: f*ck no, get real. Who would want to receive this news after a couple YEARS of no contact?

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Don’t do it. If you had maintained any type of communication sure, but you don’t know their state of being. Some people take a long time to heal and others move on quickly. Playing this out, best case scenario they wish you the best. That’s the best you can get. Everything else would be less positive. The risk is not worth it to them or to you.



Why are you getting married so fast lmao

Leave him alone!

Are you the guy or the girl?


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