{ "media_type": "text", "post_content": "Called into the principal's office to discuss a parent's concern and was blindsided with accusations against me. I was \"guilty\", despite the fact I had previously documented and proven that this student twisted truths. I was not allowed to defend myself. Then I was told I was not a good fit for the school. I have been there for 13 yrs, 3 with this principal. Suddenly, I am accused of lacking empathy and told the students needed to be \"protected\" from me.\nI don't know what just happened.", "post_id": "61f451c86bfac3002cd39e4f", "reply_count": 23, "vote_count": 8, "bowl_id": "5c751b9f2f6b98001bc666f8", "bowl_name": "Teachers", "feed_type": "crowd" }

Called into the principal's office to discuss a parent's concern and was blindsided with accusations against me. I was "guilty", despite the fact I had previously documented and proven that this student twisted truths. I was not allowed to defend myself. Then I was told I was not a good fit for the school. I have been there for 13 yrs, 3 with this principal. Suddenly, I am accused of lacking empathy and told the students needed to be "protected" from me. I don't know what just happened.

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If you’re apart of the union, you have the right to stop the meeting and request a union rep to be present as a witness.

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I am so sorry. Do you have a union to support you?

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I would consult your union.

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I would ignore it. Been through this type of stuff several times. Interesting how fast one can go from a bad teacher to a good teacher and from a good teacher to a bad teacher based on a couple of complaints or compliments from parents. If you can get to know the school board members. They can cover for you if need be. I would not move on. 13 years is a good solid track record. No need to start over because of this speed bump.

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Welcome to students running the school through the parents. I just can’t understand why administrators are allowing it to happen. Our new governor just opened a tip line where parents can report their children’s school if they see ‘divisive’ practices from teachers.

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I burned that damn apple cart down about five years ago, Texas.

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Also, refrain from volunteering info or answering anything more than yes or no. "Do you know why I wanted to meet with you?" "No" Make them tell/explain everything. Do not give them anything.

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Absolutely!

If you are part of a union, the minute you start to feel uncomfortable about the meeting, you have the right to stop the meeting. Reschedule but have a building rep with you. Take notes. I would even ask if you can record the conversation. Let the building rep answer the questions or clarify what admin wants.

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There are numerous teachers leaving next year. The same principal confirmed I am an excellent teacher with great management skills, very knowledgeable. Yet, the preference is that I find a different position. I just don't understand the whole situation.

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Something not being shared it seems by the principle. My first thought is new teachers cost less.

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In general I would recommend that in any situation like that, you first try to ascertain why you are being called down. If there is any indication or they won't tell you, insist it is scheduled at a time you can bring a union rep. If they say it is for another matter then blind side you, insist on stopping the meeting until you can have a union reps present.

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Just a word of thanks to those who responded. It's difficult to think things through when you are so close to a situation. I appreciate the advice and encouragement for going forward with this.

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Good luck! There is a lot of good advice here and keep coming back if you need more. One thing to consider. How much do you want to stay in your current position or is this a good motivation to look for a change? Sometimes that kick leads you to a better place.

Don't leave if you have tenure unless there's something a lot better. I've been in this place a few times. The admins leave at some point. Just hunker down and don't speak up. Hard for me to do myself. I took a leave and have let them deal with the issues I tried pointing out for a few months. It was getting to be too stressful to keep myself composed and do my job teachign. I have students left and right acting out, melting down, and generally there to socialize. For goodness sakes, I had to put capitalization grammar lessons in place in the 11th grade? Then my mom started failing and then passed. It was that "one more thing" so I went on a leave after bereavement. So maybe go to a mental health and get signed off for a while? I called and got on with a counslor. First we dealth with my mom but then I told them how stresses I was about work already. I was doing everything I'm supposed on my students, including this one student who has a real criminal record and has zero positives written in the LMS over many years. In my mind, he may in fact be a socio-path, but I'm not a psychologist.They knew about him prior to covid/schooling at home but weren't taking steps that they are supposed to to take action. He's a minority so I guess now were in "can't take action". IDK. I'm a minority too but I don't count. I was doing everything by the book, me and one other teacher. 4 were doing nothing. Counselor patches things up. AP disarms the behavior specialist so she's left to patch also. I have I think want him to age out and I half think they legitimately don't know what to do.But he has been harassing and threatening everyone. Not just me, not just the students, everyone. The school. Destroying school property--literally tore the toilet seats off and busted the sink pipes! Then threatened all the kids who snitched--he holds grudges and he is scary. But if they can get him into a classroom and have the teacher put up with him, they act like its solved, for a few hours. Now I hear he's "off the hook" and running around everyone, but I removed myself from the drama that was escalating. Parents didn't know what to do with him. He lives with his grandparents. They never responded to my attempts to call home. It was MY fault to hold him accountable at all. But somehow it came down to, "what are you going to do to keep him in your room?" Timing with my mom was coincidental but gave me space. I've been off for a little and I think, let them handle it then. It's clearly not me "egging him on" if I'm not even there, right? That might be a good idea for you. Take a mental health leave. 30days, 60 days. You have a right to it all.

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I am so sorry that you went through this experience but you also give very good advice. Using sick days and meeting with a mental health professional to back you up is an excellent idea. It can help you get perspective and guide you in the right direction. 

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