Anyone in BK or Manhattan want to do a house swap? We’re in Oakland,Ca. Need a change of scenery. We’ve got a big house & yard, close to redwoods and beaches. We have 2 kids so v kid friendly digs. High end furniture etc. Would love to do 2 weeks in late September or October.
Has anyone gotten in better shape while pregnant? I gained 20 lbs since March 2020 and stopped all of my workout classes with COVID. Was juuust about to get back into yoga, Pilates, and barre then found out I’m pregnant. I *need* to get some strength back but don’t want to overdo it (ftm at 37).
So far I’ve been through 1 IVF cycle. I have one embryo that is frozen waiting for transfer. My doctor is wanting me to do another round of IVF to back eggs for baby number two down the road. Has anyone been through this? I know of two people around my age that got pregnant naturally with their second baby after IVF. Does anyone know about banking embryos for future use instead of transferring? My insurance doesn’t cover anything so all this of out of pocket.
Have a PI case in Pennsylvania where a young child suffered serious injuries and will require 24/7 care from his parents the rest of his life. It seems like PA does not recognize a filial loss of consortium for the parents unless there is a wrongful death of the child… or does it? Any fishes able to chime in on that?
Hello All anyone know about company “Reply” in London,UK?
I need to understand paternity leave over there.
So I just found out I'm pregnant and need to tell my employer eventually (it's still quite early). Since this is WFH, I can obviously keep this to myself for much longer. When is the appropriate time to tell my company? (I have a good relationship with them.)
How long did you swaddle your baby and what product worked best for you? I have both the halo and love to dream swaddle. My baby hates them both
Is it an over share to clients that the resource you’re replacing is on maternity leave?
Looking at people’s photos of skiing with their kids, dressing up their kids, making me really want a kid. Why is it so difficult for me? 😢
If we are replaceable in jobs and jobs are difficult to be done after 45, shouldn’t it be a better alternative to sit in a family business shop with 30 lakh income with father? Why do people glorify corporate jobs then?
Need some discussion around it.
Hi! Have any pregnant moms gotten covid recently and encountered loss of smell/taste? If so, how long did it last? Asking for a 4m pregnant friend who is vaxxed/boosted but in the thick of COVID right now.
I’m putting together a survey on maternity leave in tech. What is your maternity leave policy for the ladies in that field ? Is There coverage with less than a year employment? What companies do you know of and how many weeks/months covered ?
38 yo in Germany, wife & 2 kids (5 & 1), 1 kid with Autism. Should I be investing as much as possible or just enough to keep some cash floating around? I have all the insurances (life, health, disability, accident) and making about 105k+ EUR in Germany. I'm investing in Mutual Funds, private retirement fund, ETFs and Real state for the elderly (Pflegeimmobilien in German) and it's only 12% of my income. Should I be investing more or maybe diversify?
Anyone have a child in Avenues NYC? Thoughts? Worried about English Literacy given they split time with second language immersion. My child is already fluent in Spanish so that is less of a gain.
My sister is having a difficulty getting pregnant because her eggs are not maturing. Anyone here has or had the similar issues?
Hi! Does anyone have entry level remote recruiting roles available? My mother is finally able to work again after a bad car accident and is looking for a career change. She was previously in retail leadership and has great soft skills and the ability to learn and grow with a team.
Please DM if you have any opportunities to talk more!
Who here is in their early 40s? We have gone through so much to get here. Multiple failed attempts and miscarriages. Finally I'm pregnant and with twins. I'm so happy but I'm also scared and freaking out a little. I am wondering is this bc we are old :( i cant stop calculating that when my kid is 10 I'll be almost 55 while all my friends will have kids in college :( I've known I wanted this but feeling like was I crazy to keep trying at this age.
Hi, contemplating a bcg expert track PL role after 5 years of ops consulting. Any perspectives on the career trajectory on the expert track vs generalist track? Are the expert track folks really given a 'step child' treatment? Any thoughts on potential exit opportunities?
I’m an analyst at a small(ish) REPE firm. We’re looking to unroll a pretty comprehensive Multifamily strategy and I’m tasked with hammering it out internally. Part of this is choosing a RE consulting firm to engage. We’re looking for people to gather a lot of data on various markets and create various economic reports. Also other data as needed to make a slide deck. Anybody have recommendations/personal experience at a consulting firm with Multifamily practice?
I’m looking for some insight. I’ve been a medical secretary/office assistant for almost 3 years. There’s really no where to move up in my career. I’m wondering if staying in health care is even worth it or should I go back to school for something completely different
All, I have an ask. Some people are afraid to post here because the networking function at the top of the bowl is using the stock photos. This is because there are only four of us that have networking enabled. So I’m going to ask every one everyone to please enable networking. This will also enable connecting with other Black professionals.
Boy moms... Where can I get a suit for an 18 month old that is reasonably priced (he'll only wear it once) but doesn't look too cheap?
Hope You all are doing well !
I received following Offer from Atos. How much I will get in hand after all deduction (including taxes)?
Is there an “unspoken rule” that if you apply to other firms and are rejected it hurts your chances if you reapply to them in the future? I’ve been at a firm for a few months but the environment is toxic and I’m looking at other options.
Need some advice. In Jan 2020 I took my first GMAT and got a 710 (Q47 V40). I knew I could do better so I studied my a** off for 2 months and retook in March 2020… during the verbal section there was an computer glitch, and long story short the test center admin had to call IT and manually add back lost time to my exam. Obviously was a bit frazzled but ended with a 720 (Q50 V38), with verbal definitely taking a hit. I was offered a free retake but then the world shut down, testing was paused…
Second year corporate/ECVC associate (not big law), losing my job for sure next week (long story short I screwed up and I’ve been frozen out ice cold). Started interviewing already, should hear back from a firm next week and have two more interviews as well. Has anyone recovered from being let go while actively searching? How did you handle it?
Any info on the agency Heartbeat in NY?
We made it to the weekend, HR fam! Or in my case, barely made it 😂😬. What are you doing to take care of yourself this weekend? I’ll go first: quiet evening with my husband tonight - may visit a brewery. Then some much needed time in nature tomorrow. We carry heavy burdens for our orgs, often without having a safe place to share our own burdens. I’m cheering all of you on as you make work better every day ❤️
Does EY GDS layoff or fire any employee??
Any “starter kits” or one-stop shops that would provide requisite services for new opportunistic credit shop
Between PwC People and Organization Services and EY People Advisory Services, what do you guys recommend and why?
How are you guys dealing with non-desi partners who take things really slow when it comes to marriage? Parents are freaking out that I'm going to be too old to have kids
Tired of all the respectability politics. Just once I want to write what I really mean in an email or tell a client what I really think of them when they ask. F*cking tired of walking on eggshells and constantly wondering if I did or said the right thing in the right way or the right tone to make sure the people around me are comfortable. Who's doing that for me at work? Nobody.
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Hi all, my fiancé and I are due in September with our first. Would you recommend getting a night nurse? And, even if you’re up breast feeding every few hours anyway?
My project is requiring a lot of time commitment during early hours and evening and it’s getting hard to pick up LO from day care. I wanted advise frm ppl who have hired help for pick/drop off.
Ideas for gifts for my 2 friends who are hosting our couples’ baby shower? I appreciate them so much and want to show some gratitude.
Newly pregnant. Any tips/tricks for finding a doula, prenatal classes, and childcare/preschool ahead of the baby’s arrival?
Anyone here take 1-2 years off following birth of second child? Contemplating stepping back temporarily but terrified of not being able to come back or running into issues recruiting.
Part time babysitter paid hourly - do I need to pay her if she can’t come in due to weather? What about if she’s sick and can’t come in?
How do you organize your family? My kids are starting sports and are in different schools, and I clearly don’t have a good system to keep track of everything!
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14weeks pregnant here and super excited! As I’m a planner, what is the maternity policy for Accenture? The HR manual can be a bit ambiguous so asking for someone who’s been through it. I live in NY state by the way.
Hi moms! Between you and your spouse how many books do you read to your child per week? It’s been a struggle to get my spouse to help with this and I am so drained at the end of the day with work and housework I can only get through 1 book a day if any… averaging maybe 4 books a week? I feel terribly guilty bcuz I feel like this is not normal and we’re slacking parents 😭
I am in the process of stopping to breastfeed (currently still 1x morning and 1x after daycare) but my son really wants to be fed more often and cries when I stop him/ offer bottle instead. Any tips? How long will this last? I am gone for one night next week and plan to stop completely within next 1/2 weeks. Should I rip off bandaid or stay on a slow roll-off?
One of the best advice a senior partner gave me in newborn stage was babies also need change. You don’t take it personally and yes, they read anxiety as well. It’s frustrating how we mums do everything and then baby starts showing preference but only later. So in this case, you first need to have a dialogue with your husband on shared responsibilities. It’s not fair that he changed only 3 diapers in a month and no, being in person at work is not an excuse. Second, you need a break from baby, home and husband. Keep the baby with the husband when he is at home, and you go for a walk alone. Third, get childcare asap for atleast part of the day. Taking care of baby day in day out all alone is mentally, physically and emotionally exhausting. Lastly, I know this will hurt but still, if the baby prefers his dad, let it happen. You get a break and dad learns to care for the baby. Most of us have been in your shoes and know exactly what you are feeling so take a deep breath and a long break.
I haven’t read the other comments but my only suggestion would be to milk it. Tell dad the baby needs him, go take a long shower, relax, get a massage, heck a healthy meal - I’m sure you could use it all. Let daddy help out a bit more and if this is the incentive he needs, so be it.
Girl, this is such good advice in hindsight. lol
Went through a very similar experience. Found this, thought I’d share.
Are you feeling anxious mama? Baby can feel that and maybe dad feels calm. Only thing I can think of because no, baby cannot have a preference this young and it’s likely you anyway!
Omg, I felt this exact way. I even posted her. OP, I was so depressed and angry. I understand exactly what hat you’re feeling right now. And now I’m struggling to type this response to you because my 11 who just can’t get enough of me is on my lap. They go back and forth. It’ll work itself out. I promise this isn’t permanent.
In the meantime, your feelings are valid. Vent when you need to vent and don’t feel like you need to be quiet about what you’re experiencing and feeling. Sending you love.
Here’s the old thread in case any of the responses I got help you. Sending love. https://joinfishbowl.com/post_77rmzj356h
Ok I felt like this!! I was breastfeeding around the clock, doing so much. My pediatrician said, “mom is business, dad is fun.” It didn’t help but it made sense!
He’s 7 months old now and he loves both of us so much. His first word was dada, then baba (Arabic for dad, what we call my husband), then papa 🤦♀️
But it’s okay! We have a long time to have a relationship with him!
You are your baby’s ecosystem, his home. Your heartbeat is the most familiar sound in the world. No one can compete with that.
Also, the forth trimester is crazy hard and you’re doing an awesome job!!!
Yes. Take it as a win that dad can sooth him. In my case dad wasn’t good at soothing him and kept bringing him back to me which was super frustrating.
It’s a marathon. Our guy is 6 now and favorite status has gone back and forth. But even when mama isn’t “favorite” it’s clear she’s the default parent. They see that you are where all the care/feeding comes from….and it’s you they run to with skinned knee etc…enjoy the moments the baby chooses dad…make dad deal…and yes. Leave the house. Even just sit in front steps but get out without a baby in your arms. You are doing great. This is a tough stretch!
Omg. Right? Heartbreaking when they don't want you /you aren't their person. As someone who survived 3 of those such phases in the first year, each as painful as the next, I promise its a phase. If only I had the common sense to advise and believe my own advice next round.
My three year old has always preferred dad, except for a brief two week period. The rest, he always wants Daddy! I took a business trip for a few days, and I figured my son would be just fine, he loves his dad! But the first night I was gone he cried himself to sleep because I wasn’t there. He’s just so used to having me around all the time, that he takes me for granted. Suddenly I’m no there and his world falls apart!
That’s being a bit dramatic perhaps, but he needs you so much, and you’re always there. Daddy is new and exciting, and that’s good too. Take a break and know that your bond with Baby is very special, and he loves you so much, even if he can’t express it yet.
You ladies are so amazing. Thanks for not dismissing me. In my mind I was prepared for this in his toddler life but as an infant I thought I'd be his person. This is so tough, I just want him to love me
He absolutely loves you! You rock his work! Just wait, you’ll see. 💗
Babies are weird. I’m 9 months pregnant and my 15 month old is in a mommy phase. It’s killing me as I have to have a c section and won’t be able to pick him up.
I know it feels crappy at the time - especially when they want a mother in law who gloats about it - but if you can hand that kid off and go do something for you. I promise you. They love you so much and they will show it at different times. Take the break! ❤️
Remember that you are an amazing mom, firstly. This is the hardest time of parenthood I have experienced and you are do a great job giving that baby everything they need.
As you can see from other comments, the favorite parent goes back and forth. Somedays you’ll be grateful for it, other days it will crush you. All your baby needs from you is love and patience and you’re doing a fantastic job.
I’ll leave you with the toddler interaction I had two days ago where my daughter woke up screaming for daddy. He went to comfort her and she immediately started screaming as soon as he put her down. Then I went in to do the same. She calmed down again and I put her back in her crib and she went right back to sleep. Calling for daddy which broke my heart but mom got the job done so I walked away just feeling grateful for a partner my kid loves.