Can I do activities my wife hates to do w/ another woman (e.g. golf & hiking)? Completely non-sexual. Opinions on how to approach that? Single women - would you golf/hike with a married man?

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What? Why would it be weird? I get the consensus that it could be misconstrued if it's someone you just met and they might think it's a date, but like - doing something with a female friend that I've known for years and years would be 100% fine with my SO. Maybe the ticket is ensuring that your wife has met them and considers them an acquaintance/friend as well?

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I brought up a similar situation with my wife. She doesn't like concerts and I do like them. I told her I'd like to go to a concert with a girl friend from work. Amazingly, my wife started to like concerts.

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No and no. Find a guy to do these activities with, not another woman.

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In a group, sure. One on one, no.

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My ex husband is now married to the woman he was allegedly doing platonic activities such as going to see bands with. It's your call.

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Lol what a stupid question

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I'd platonically fuck a married man.

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Of course I would (as a married man) if I wanted to start divorce proceedings.

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Like jeez, I can't imagine marrying someone with such a fragile ego that you can't hang out with the opposite sex. If they don't trust you, this is way deeper than a game of golf.

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It's fairly easy to find people to golf with.. I know men who make tee times and join in groups all the time. There are plenty of hiking groups out there too - it's not like you're stuck with the choice of this chick or by yourself. It sounds like you're just looking for an excuse to hang out with this girl and already made up your mind. Going on 'platonic' dates with someone you just met at a happy hour is not normal if you're married - you're not even really friends with this person yet

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Join a club or something and try make more friends than some random girl you met at a social event who like to go hiking.

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It's not about single women, I trust single women not to be garbage and to look out for other women. The act of hanging with an attainable woman, doing things a wife won't do, is a recipe for comparison and then feels on his part.

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Sounds like you're into her

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how much you like your marriage vrs activities? I would find a guy friend or in a group

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Introverted married woman here. I would not be ok with my husband doing that. We don't have any friends outside work either, basically same situation. It all comes down to your wife. You need to talk to her about this and find out her feelings. If she's ok with it, fine. If she's not, drop it.

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Plan an informal get together with these two and maybe some other people. That way your wife can feel her out and sees if she likes her or not. This allows single woman to again see your married and like your wife and allows wife to see that this girl is really just a friend and not some side bitch.

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Don't do it. Remove yourself from the equation and read what you wrote as if it was someone else. Surely you would think it unwise and disrespectful to the wife. Man up and find a guy to dude around with. Out of respect for your wife. Btw- you're head's going to spin when kids kill your social life. 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦

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Sounds like they shouldn't have been married in the first place witch is a whole separate conversation.

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Yeah your only options are 1) to tell your wife what you told us and ask her to participate in something you want to do (hiking, golf) because a coworker has expressed interest in these activities and you would like her to join you. If she really hates hiking/golf she'll say no but still want to meet her or 2) just learn to enjoy hiking alone. Meet guys at the golf club or find out who likes to golf/hike in your office and ask them all to do these things as a group and if it ends up being just the 2 of you then whatever but intentionally spending time alone with a member of the opposite sex that is into the things your wife is not into is a recipe for disaster

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Neither of you have friends. That sounds miserable. Introverted or not.

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