Can most military families really handle just picking up and moving to a different country, or is there a higher rate of divorce in the military?

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This is a commitment not everyone is willing to keep. I had an 8 year relationship that ended precisely because of this, and my current wife has traveled with me for the last 3 years. We need to be realistic with our expectations and long term goals.

Most of the older military men and women I know have kept their marriages. Maybe it's something about the generation that was used to not getting divorced.

It's easiest to adjust if your spouse grew up in a military family or had to move around a lot during their life. Tell you the truth, it isn't easy by any stretch of the imagination. Seems like by the time you develop a good support structure with friends in your community, you have to pull up stakes and move Who Knows Where with very little notice. It's not forever though. So it can be done, but it is definitely a strain on relationships with family, and it makes long-term friendships pretty hard too.

My wife and I didn't make it through but that's because we didn't have a strong enough relationship to start with, got married because we were expecting a child and it just got to be too much for her. And it didn't help that I was overseas when our daughter was born. So I returned home and all of a sudden had a one-year-old that I wasn't used to living with (and I've never been around kids). I can't help thinking that if we had time to bond as a family when she was a baby, things might've turned out differently.

Depends on your personalities, some people are really sociable and great at making friends. Others are more reserved and that's not usually the best temperament for this sort of thing because restarting your life time and again is no easy feat. Most couples make it through.

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