Can someone help me decipher what’s going on here? I need a Desi perspective. Multiple men have sent me interest on matrimonial sites but when I accept and message, they don’t respond. But the same men swipe on other dating apps. Why? Recently, one guy sent an interest on a site and swipes right on two apps. But when I reach out on the site, he cancelled his interest. 🤯

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Is it just me or does OP sound pretty fascinating!?! Interested in the psychology behind silly behavior.
Knowledgable and probably a fan on the Nolans.
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Have you ever wondered whether they see us and our behavior as abnormal? 😁
Also, what's your fav Nolan movie?

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Maybe they’re just mass swiping just to swipe.
Or conversely, maybe some of them are just doing it for an ego boost, or they’re talking to someone else on the app but don’t want to close the app in case it doesn’t work out.

It could be a myriad of reasons.
But if it isn’t working out after matching (no communication from him, go for the message and if still no response, move on).

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D1, I don’t think they are busy chatting with others. And I’ve chatted with guys who are talking to others. It’s obvious. But they are at least responsive. This is a different kind. Like I can sense these people registered my profile in their head a few times and they had interest when they initiated. Maybe it’s an ego boost game. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Also note that some matrimonial sites are handled by the parents and dating apps by the guy. And some people have a habit of mass swipes -just to see who's interested as its a numbers game in some men's mind. I've been guilty of all the above (happily married now). I apologize on behalf of all men who are guilty of this behavior and some women (experienced these scenarios with women as well)
Good luck out there!

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M here. I have faced a fair bit of it myself. I guess with the plethora of apps, options it’s a Wild West out there.

It is wierd, I even reached out to this guy through insta & he seemed very interested. We had couple to chats boom, nothing after that! He's my absolute desire 6 2' but I have no idea what's the deal why ppl do not communicate.

Did he mention his name and ask to add him on Insta?

May be those guys were validating whether their matrimonial prospects are on dating apps too..

Yes but maybe this could be a case of “I don’t want to deal with families or be straightforward about intentions?”

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