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Can we talk about angry black woman guilt? I always feel bad for calling someone out for something bc it seems like I could've been nicer about it. But is not changing my behavior and trying (contd)

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Something I realized along the way is that righteous indignation doesn't feel great. Like for my health, I'd rather be able to communicate after the climax of my feelings. Pride can be great when you need to sell yourself or defend your chops. It's less great in conflict resolution. I try not to think about it in terms of being a black woman because ultimately that just psychs me out. The less decisions I make because of how I might be perceived, the better. I make this decision based on who I want to be as a person.

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Thanks C1. I've been thinking about your response a lot over the last week and it's helped a lot

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to desensitize people really the best way to go about dismantling unconscious bias? I can't remember the last time I was actually mad and yelling at someone at work. And the time to have 'a conversation' never seems to be right.

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