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Can y’all confirm someone’s gender + interest before sliding into their DM’s please. Very out of pocket behavior. M here, tired of random men sliding into my DM’s and being weirdos. Same with y’all women. My DM’s are a safe, respectful place. Be. Nice.

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Had a dude slide into my DMs thinking I was a bro. He wanted to hang. Told him I was a lady. Still wants to hang. We’ll see next month. 🤷‍♀️



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I had someone slide into my DMs too. She for sure thought I was a man.


How did that end up going? Lol. Did she just raw dog slide in the DM’s or was there a misinterpretation?

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