can you be friends with an ex? We dated less than 3 mos, have some mutual friends but live in different cities.
We love each other but needed to break up. He had a recent family trauma & other stressors (law school mostly) that initiated the breakup. He couldnt afford to be emotionally present within us and the things at home (which i dont blame him for and fully respect)
I want to support him but also balance my own desires and expectations. Ive accepted we’re broken up fr. ended over 1mo ago

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Generally no. Maybe years down the road, but the fact that you’ve known each other intimately will interfere if not hinder future relationships.

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Yes, but you need rules around the friendship, and you need to respect your boundaries. I think having a texting friendship with him is fine, as long as you are dating other people and won't get attached. But be careful if he starts to lean on you too much so that he crosses the line into relationship. I have been through similar situations where the guy basically wanted to use me as an emotional teddy bear that he could call every night, but we rarely saw each other in person.

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No.

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After time being apart yes.

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Hello:)

I'm a firm believer in you do you. Try to be helpful and offer a hand while doing what's best for you and your family. Stay positive and you will find balance in your life.

Yes.
But have certain ground rules in place

Went through a similar situation. Some times people need to disappear from commitments to deal with traumas - everyone handles it differently. Hopefully you guys can reconnect after some time

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