Cant get pregnant after a year of trying, went for Femara + timed intercourse.. found today that still not pregnant. Losing hope - need support

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I’m four years in now TTC and on my first IVF now. I did TI cycles and IUIs before IVF. Keep strong 💪🏼. You can get through this. One month at a time. I know it’s a roller coaster but it’s worth it at the end.

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I’m sorry! With each passing month it feels harder and more exhausting. It took me 17 months, but around the 12 month mark my husband and I went in to see a specialist. We found out what was wrong and tried to fix it on our own before going the IUI or IVF route, with very low hope that it would work but it did! Just make sure there’s nothing that’s complicating this journey for you further. My husband and I had a tradition of getting sushi every time I got my period. Hopefully you can treat yourself to something you like and get some good news soon. Good luck 🤞🏼

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Sending love and baby dust to you...try stepping away from the process and just enjoy practicing I found out that sometimes a break from the process helps everything fall into place! Please don’t lose hope and don’t give up!

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 it is definitely a hard road with a lot of heart ache. You may wish to consult with a fertility specialist. My wife and I are so thankful that we did. Wishing you all the best.

Yes, working with a reproductive endocrinologist. It’s just a lot to go through all the process :(

Hang in there!! Femara & timed intercourse is the reason my 2 year old is here today. But! It didn’t work until the 3rd month. Hang in there!

Sending you a *BIG hug* ❤️

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