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As Barney Stinson once said: Do you know why you're not over Lily yet? It's 'cause you can still picture her naked. You can't get over a woman until you can no longer picture her b*obs. It's a scientific fact. The average male brain can only store a finite number of boob images, or BPEGs and your hard drive's filled to capacity with Lily's.
Ngl never really rated HIMYM but this is quite stellar
Rising Star
What is it that starts the mental looping of your ex? Specific triggers? You can try to create new memories so you stop the associations with your ex.
From a neuroscience background, you need to interrupt the associations/looping that is happening by focusing on your feet.
"Where are my feet?"
It's a meditation practice where you envision your feet from the ground up and slowly work up throughout your body. If you start to think about your ex again, you start at the bottom of your feet and then work your way up. Focus on sensations, envision your environment, and notice any places in the body that feel tension and try to relax them.
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I had a really bad break-up in my mid-20s and this was what my therapist recommended. It worked! Definitely helped me stop obsessing and made it easier to move on.
Hope it helps. You can also squeeze between your thumb and index finger if you need to interrupt yourself mentally from thinking about the person. Focus on the sensations while you do it.
Enthusiast
It's called rebound sex and it works pretty well.
Rising Star
No it doesn’t work. Haven’t you seen Forgetting Sarah Marshall?
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Go to therapy. You don’t miss her, you miss whatever it is she symbolises to you, and your sustained grief is based on a set of beliefs you have about her and yourself that are wrong. Therapy can help you figure out what those beliefs are, and change them.
Chief
Agreed that therapy can help break the obsessive circular thoughts.
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