Confession: I take a photo of Christmas cards (in case it comes up later) and then immediately throw them in the trash. Please stop sending these to your friends, esp if they’re of your kid. Definitely don’t send it to people who don’t have kids. We know what little Teddy looks like - he’s been on our Instagram timeline at least 3x every week ever since he was an embryo.
So he is still alive? That was a waste of a suspenseful teaser. And obviously someone was a big baby toda fan.
New parents: how are you managing setting expectations around your schedule and availability? I have a pretty understanding team, but am starting to resent all the extra hours that are often required. Tbh, it was getting a little old even before the baby. Are we all just sucking it up?
Anyone have tips for when and how to make a break from the pacifier? Baby is 8 months and only uses it for sleeping.
Hello, I just had to vent a little and maybe ask for your opinion. So I’ve been working at my job for four years now and I’ve never gotten a promotion. On top of this, I do extra duties that my coworkers don’t do and struggle with the work load. I feel like I’m being taken advantage of and am not sure what to do. I feel like going to my boss and refusing to continue to do these extra tasks without extra compensation. Am I being a baby about this?
My boyfriend and I have been trying for the past 5-6 months. Meaning he’s come inside me every time. (Sometimes 2 times a day). But nothing, no pregnancy ever. I’ve always had pregnancy ‘scares’ but it was always wrong. Does anyone have any advice on what’s going on? Desperate to find somebody who can understand and not just tell me it’s because it’s harder to get pregnant than the movies make it seem
Hi everyone. This is probably not the best place to post this but searching for options everywhere right now. My mom is in an abusive living situation with the father of my siblings and I’m trying to find a place for her live. I live in DC and she has a stable job in Atl so living with me is not an option. She is unable to get an apartment due to poor credit and rental history. I’m willing to handle her rent, etc. If anyone is renting out a space or aware of someone who is please lmk.
I told my husband that I wished I was more in shape before getting pregnant and his response was “well you could still get fit” 🙃🙃
Sorry if this is too gross but I’ve been having diarrhea for the last week. Went to the ER and they couldn’t identify the cause. Going to my PCP tomorrow. 10 weeks pregnant currently. Has anyone experienced something like this? No recent changes to diet / haven’t eaten out.
Can I go to the “safer” grocery store hours? They say “people over 60, pregnant or immunocompromised.” I’m not 60, but have a letter stating I am high risk. Will people challenge me?
M30🐠 here in financial services who repeatedly receives comments about my baby face and looking like young / high schooler etc and can't grow facial hair. It's especially limiting given peers and juniors look 5-10 yrs older than me and clients think they are senior to me.
I think an online branding / stlylist consultant could help me look more mature. Eg what frame style / color glasses, hair style, clothing.
Any recommendations or experiences?
Has anyone found themselves completely lacking emotional resilience since returning to work? I returned 5 months ago and baby is a year old, so this isn’t PPD. I’m not remotely depressed either, but..
When should I give a new client a heads up that I will take time off for mat leave? I started with this client about a month ago. There’s no SOW, and it’s a few hours a week for random projects. I didn’t tell them I was pregnant at the time we started. My plan is to work until the end of the year, and then take time off. When is the best time to let them know? Asap? A month before? I don’t care about picking things up once I’m back but I’d like to be courteous.
Thoughts on breathable mesh crib liner once baby can roll around? Concerned about legs getting stuck
SO's father is proposing in a couple weeks and we will be going for dinner a couple days after to celebrate. What would be an acceptable gift for the two of them. Is an expensive bottle for each of their personal preference a good gift? Open to all ideas
Anyone here have experience leaving a federal gov job before the obligatory 12 weeks after parental leave ends? What kind of financial penalty could I expect if I choose to do so?
For the LGBTQ+ lawyers, if your firm offers reproductive assistance, how did you start the process of planning to start a family? Are there better years as an associate to target having a child? How do you (or should you) approach it with your partner leadership, or should you just dive right in with the HR contacts? Any advice would be really appreciated!
Does anyone else wish their school had been more up-to-date on STEM when they were a kid? I went to college with some kids who had been practicing and studying code since middle school. I learned about it from the internet in high school enough that I wanted to go to college for it, but I still feel like I started behind everyone else regardless of gender.
Has anyone here made partner after having children at their law firm? I’ve gone through two maternity leaves at my firm and am getting the impression that because my “numbers” (billables, revenue etc.) haven’t been as good as other associates who do not have children (or stay-at-home help for their families), I won’t be put up on time. This isn’t surprising to me, but I am ALSO reduced hours and I’m not sure how I will ever hit the numbers that other associates typically do (cont’d)
Turned 45 today.. female, divorced and no kid.. somehow feel like wasting time in consulting working with immature SMs who thinks my way or no way. Any idea to spend the day doing something interesting in home
Flights are starting up again. What's the move on which airline and hotels to favour to rack up points? I know United and delta are the big ones for my US colleagues but curious about Toronto based opinions
Can anyone please tell me what types of exit opportunities can you come across from a role such as an Accounting Advisory Senior Consultant? Will appreciate any helpful insight or feedback.
Best Product course on Udemy? Trying to transition to Product and I feel this night help.
PSA: You can get an eCard from a public library just by using your email, and then you have access to 1000s of books for free!! I can’t believe how much I used to spend on kindle 🤭
What are some things that are helping you avoid burnout recently? I've been spending a lot more time outside, blocking off my schedule more consistently, and even taking extra days off. Slowly I'm starting to feel more like myself!
Is anyone aware of meet up groups (black women/young professional groups would be great) for those who go to Broadway shows?
So I got furloughed...with notice that I am 99% likely to be placed on a PIPwhen I return. They basically said by this point either you get it or you don't, and apparently I'm not getting it.
If my boyfriend pays me fair market value rent every month, can I claim this rental income and therefore take advantage of rental expense deductions and depreciation? If so, would expenses and repairs that apply to the home be counted at 50%? I started the construction for a rental dwelling in 2020 that will be on the same property, but won’t have paying renters until later this year. I’m hoping that by claiming his rental income for 2020 then I would also be able to capture those expenses.
Can someone explain me how much scatterplot weigh and what are the things you should be careful of if you’re in lower side?. Not working with that team anymore. New to the firm and had rough start.
How come in TV shows there are different salaries for different actors? And it's even worse when you bring numbers in. Per episode, there have been cases where some people make twice as much as others.
Hello everyone, Appreciate if someone could support me for a referral at Google for a L5 role in UAE, Middle east office.
Idk how, but I got the offer. Still wondering if it’s real (it’s been 30mins since the phone call) because I thought I performed so poorly. I wouldn’t have passed myself. I hope the interviewers didn’t make a mistake (accidentally mixed up evals for another candidate, or the call was meant for another candidate w/ the same name). I do want to thank the Fishbowl community though. So many of you took the time to share your experiences and encourage me. I couldn’t have done this without you.
Best resource to learn about the energy generation world and trading? Would appreciate some courses, books, or leads.
7 day breakfast challenge.
Post a picture of your breakfast. Can’t wait to see all of the pics!
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How about you tell your friends/family that you don’t want to receive them and let other people who actually enjoy receiving them do what they want with it.
Not everyone uses social media. I’m 26 and don’t use IG or FB at all. Some of my friends send physical cards while others do e-cards. To each their own.
I think they’re silly personally but damn man let people do what they want. How is it hurting you?
Quite a sad outlook on life…maybe that will change if you have kids?
I’ve loved getting Christmas cards my whole life and I’m late 40’s now. My wife has saved all the cards we’ve given over the last 20 years and we have the majority of the ones we’ve gotten. If we get a card from a family we’ll go back 15 years and find the card they sent back then 🤷🏼♂️
I also despise Facebook and Instagram so maybe that is it but don’t worry, I’d definitely scratch you off my list with that attitude! 😄
It won’t be you … it’ll be your wife. 😂
I’m with you, and I have kids! I used to put them all on my fridge for the season (and throw them away sometime in January), but now I just throw them away right away. I definitely think the majority of people love the cards though, so to each their own. I think people who display them in various ways for the holidays like the idea of decorating with pics of their loved ones (and other people also see them when they come over, etc).
I used to do the fridge thing, as well! Then between the save the dates & random kids on my fridge, it was killing my minimalist aesthetic.
My favorite is when I have someone’s save the date card and then they send me an Xmas card with a photo of them as well from the same shoot. Like enough..
Just move and don't give anyone your new address.
🤔 could be on to something here
I really enjoy them. It’s fun to see the kids growing every year. I like the non-photo cards too. I save all of ours in a cute little Christmas card box for the season and then toss them in January so I don’t accumulate stuff to store.
I don’t throw them away immediately, but every time I get one I am annoyed that they can’t even bother to write my name much less anything remotely personal on it.
How about stop being a Scrooge. Omg someone cares enough to send me a card 😱 😱
Gen Z proposition: why don’t you use a mass communication platform and send a text or email with the photo to wish happy holidays and provide a link to request a physical card where they can enter their details and order one and you get the notification with the address. You only print a few and stop offering a physical copy once you run out.
It sounds like more work but in reality it is much less work especially for the following years.
You may change your thoughts on this when you have your own kids. A lot of the “I would never do that…” thoughts change when you become a parent. But I get it is definitely overkill sometimes.
I wish people still sent cards
Do you only throw away the family photo cards or the hallmark ones too?
Just the family photo cards. I keep the hallmark cards bc someone that’s more personal. For the family cards, I remember as a kid we’d have X number of cards that got ordered and just started running through a list of people to send them to so we didn’t get stuck with them lol
Send e cards now!
Of my close parental friends circle ranging from early 30s to mid 40s, exactly 2 out of 19 use social media to share any pictures of their kids. 🤷
Yeah, who the efff puts pictures of their kids on the social media cess pool?
OP - a lot of people send cards because they like them and otherwise don’t share photos of their children. Because you know posting pictures of your toddler or elementary school aged kid on social media is fuckin dumb.
Edit: mid 30s with kids.