Correct me if I'm wrong... For those who are older than I am.. I feel like a long term partner and marriage is really not what I envision at the beginning. Its more of just settling for what it is and compromising?

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Don’t settle, but compromise on those items of disagreement.

I didn’t settle, but my wife CLEARLY did. Coming up on 22 years. Two kids.

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I suppose. There's ups and downs. Gotta find joy and enjoy the ups and let the downs be what it is

The lust and excitement definitely fade over time but that’s replaced by deeper understanding and respect for one another. Over time, there will be tough times, and those experiences either break you up or bring you closer together.

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🤷‍♂️ she is definitely way more attractive and a much kinder human being ;-) and I would say I am a pretty confident guy

How old r u m8?

Yes. I’m shy
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Early years of marriage

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Never settle.

Sounds like you either weren’t ready to settle down or married someone for their potential rather than who they are

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