Cross posting from another bowl. Have a 2nd chance to get someone back in my life but now we live hours away from each other. They want my plan for how to do better this time to have a deeper relationship that doesn't just feel virtual (lots of memes, tiktoks, etc.) and I just don't know what I can offer. I work remote so I can travel a lot starting in January. Before we reconnected we hadn't talked in 2 years

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If it’s <3 hours drive you could probably drive down Friday nights and stay until Sunday.

I don’t see any way to make a relationship less virtual other than to make the time to see each other irl

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Do you want to get back together with them? Doesn’t sound like you are too sure. I would go as far as asking the same question back to them. If it didn’t work before, what could they have done better on their end. If you really want to be with them, you can make the time and show them you want to be with them. Good relationships are worth the effort.

Gotcha, I would suggest taking it slow then. Maybe meet up during the weekends for a date and see where it goes after a couple. Since you haven’t really dated, I think you may want to set smaller goals/expectations with your person and see where it takes you rather than trying to make big goals all at once since it almost seems like they want you to act like you’re in a serious relationship when you actually haven’t been in an official one. At least thats what it sounds like to me.

How did you reconnect after two years?

Sent a text lol

If you work remote, why don’t you work every alternate week from his/her place? See how that goes. This will ensure you are there at least 10 week days plus 8 weekend days - that’s more than a month. If this goes well, maybe you should decide to move in together somewhere.

Timing is everything 🤷🏼‍♂️

Authenticity is built by being authentic with yourself and with each other. It requires rigorous honesty, not many people have the stomach for their own Truth.
Not sure if that helps, that’s what came to mind for me. Good luck OP

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