Crushing on my supervisor, pretty sure I hide it well and don’t really know/care whether it’s reciprocated because I absolutely do not want anything to happen (I’m in a relationship, he’s newly married, we are in a small firm and it’d be bad for everyone’s lives/career all around). How to make it stop?

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Don’t? Just enjoy the butterflies and then summon them when you bang your partner at night.

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Don't worry about it - sooner or later he's do/say something stupid or mean and the crush will go away on its own.

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This is what happened for me! Lol I got to know them a little better and POOF it was gone

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People get crushes all the time, you just behave...

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Just don’t do anything about it and try to compartmentalize - it’s not uncommon to crush on a boss / manager / colleague in stressful and long hours jobs. 🤷‍♀️

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I had this when I started a new role; faded away after several weeks without any kind of negative or precipitating event. It’s still there a bit when we talk but I’ve dropped the fantasizing and thinking about him outside or direct interactions.

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Wait for him to pile work on you

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Switch projects. Remind yourself it’s lust based on hormones and attraction, it’s not meaningful and you are a professional.

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Going through something similar.. and I am grown ass woman, I thought crushes were for teenagers

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Same boat here 🥲

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