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Curious if anyone out there had a quarantine baby? Planned or unplanned? How was the experience?

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I mean I had a baby in May - so it was planned to have a baby, unplanned that there would be an f-ing pandemic in full swing when she arrived. Delivery was scary. This was right when a bunch of hospitals in NY started making moms have births alone without the father, and my practice couldn’t guarantee that my husband was going to be allowed (thankfully he was). A majority of my third trimester appointments got cancelled- they literally told me to buy a blood pressure monitor and call of kicks dropped off. I’m sure things are better now that we have better testing/understanding, but it sucks. She’s 8 months and still hasn’t met some of my immediate family as they are front line a regularly exposed :(

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Wow that sounds really scary. Sending virtual hugs ❤️

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I got pregnant in July and due in April so basically pregnant throughout all of quarantine. It's very lonely. We were ttc for years and so happy for our little rainbow baby but it really sucks because I wanted to celebrate so much with friends and family and can't. Not how I imagined my first baby after 4 years of ttc. Sigh

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Sorry to hear it's been hard for you 😔 I've been ttc since summer 2019 for my second and have been having mixed feelings about not getting pregnant in a year and a half.

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Had a baby in September and honestly, I’m so glad i was pregnant during quarantine. No one was doing anything so I didn’t have fomo. Also love that i haven’t had a cold in a year because of the masks and was less worried about the baby getting sick before she had her vaccines.

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I'm due in April with my first. Doctors appointments have been fine once I got one - a lot of people weren't taking new clients, not sure if that's normal or not. Baby appointments are just me except for ultrasounds, where husband/partner is allowed. My husband will also be allowed to be in the delivery room. But honestly this is what he would have opted for anyway, so not a big difference. I'm sad I can't celebrate in person with my friends. I'm sad I'm getting bigger on my own and no one can tell me it's good when they see me. It sucks to be going through it on my own in a lot of ways. But I'm thankful the vaccine is coming around - my MIL already has both her doses (she works at a hospital) and my mom has her first dose and is scheduled for her second, so they will be able to visit when baby arrives, and I'm very grateful for that. Hopefully more family members get their doses in summer so we can bring the baby to meet them then!

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I had a baby in March during the first lockdown. Experience was... well quite terrifying as I had to give birth alone and we had in general no support whatsoever after the birth. Muddled through somehow. Baby is now 10 months and thriving so I guess we did some stuff right. Has made me feel very strong though and brought our little family so close.

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Got pregnant in June on purpose, due in March with my 2nd. Things were looking up Covid-wise in June, so we pulled the trigger. How wrong we were 😂 Totally don’t mind as much being in quarantine with my 2nd bc I already experienced all the fun 1st pregnancy experiences (baby showers, people being nice) etc. so I’m just going through the motions living in sweatpants. I DO regret not being able to drink booze to cope during one of the hardest years ever. And being hormonal emotional and lonely when the world is on fire has taken a toll on my mental health. Hoping this baby comes out ok with all the pandemic fear and anxiety I’ve felt!

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Unplanned, due in June. My first one too, excited and mega nervous as well! Been fine so far.

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First one coming next month. 🥴 Positives: - sleeping more and less stressed without travel - far broader range of possibilities for healthy eating since I'm not dependent on client site / some sad pret salad for every meal - sweatpants and much lower maternity wear budget mean more savings - don't have a lot of close female friends where I am, so I didn't have to confront why I wasn't having a baby shower/ didn't have to have a sad awkward baby shower with like... 4 people. - as said above, no fomo. No need to navigate around why I'm not coming to the afterwork or only drinking non-alcoholic in the first trimester. - I have high quality decaf at home! Negatives: - lol what birthing classes? No prenatal yoga courses either - can't shop/ won't shop for anything in person. - family can't come. This one particularly because I am quite close with my mum - baptism when?

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