Dating a girl - been going great. Suddenly she is saying there’s too much going on in her life (her mum is ill, doing dental training) to go to the next level, but that I’m a great guy anyone would be lucky to bag etc. At the same time she says she wants to stay in touch. I said for her to tell me if she’s not interested and we can leave it - she told me she is interested but the timing is wrong. I said ok let’s leave it - she said it’s my choice (despite inertia from her).what to make of this?

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She may have a hard time saying no but she is saying no.

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Guarantee you she’s not interested at all anymore. Respect yourself enough to move on now

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D1 is correct

Always believe what people do, over what they say. She might have found someone else she's more interested in, while you might have been acting too needy and clingy, which turned her off.

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I’m sorry this happened. Did you have any inkling beforehand?
It seems she is no longer interested in dating you. Any of the reasons she gave you could be true, but she could also have met someone else she likes better or she just isn’t into you anymore.
I’m glad she told you rather than ghosting you.

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A month dating/talking. I’ve even met her friends etc.

Exact words were ‘it feels right, I am interested, but realised I’m just not ready myself for anything - you deserve better than someone going through so much trauma like me’.

She seems too uncertain and afraid to make the choice, which is why she’s positioning it as “your decision” for her own conscience. You deserve to be somebody else’s first option, not put on the back burner and in limbo like a toy. Sounds like it’s best to distance yourself. Give her space and that may clarify things for her too.

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You'll find the right one man! Chin up! You're a prize!

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Let her go. This sounds like me. I start saying stuff that doesn’t make sense to get them to break up with me.

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Damn at least you're aware? 😂

I’ve said a version of what she said a half dozen times. I was young and very immature — I hated hurting other people’s feelings so selfishly didn’t give them the clarity they deserved. She’s not into it, and it doesn’t matter why. You should move on to bigger and better :)

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We all deserve available people

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Take control by giving it up and move on. Time and distance. I won’t be surprised if she reached out in 6 months. What you do then is your call, but I hope you’ve found something better

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Looks like you were all right. There was another guy from her past involved who she’s now with 🤷🏽‍♂️

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Yeap. All of that wouldn’t matter if she had true interest. On to the next!

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