Dating a guy who is great in a lot of ways- smart, funny, outgoing. But, in spite of myself, have been hung up on his height. He is about 5’8” and I’m slightly taller than this. I feel really uncomfortable wearing heels when we go out and generally find myself fantasizing about him being taller. I know this is goofy but having trouble convincing myself his good qualities outweigh this. Anyone had a similar experience? How did you get past it?

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Pick a part of your body you’re self conscious about and imagine being dumped by someone great over that alone. Yuck forever

Or go look up a bunch of hot short kings

Or go look up all the ludicrous things Hollywood does to make leading men consistently appear taller than women, when they are not

I say this with friendly sass — this is superficial and ridiculous if a person is totally gelling with you. Get over it.

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If she’s not attracted to him, she’s not attracted to him. Attraction (and love) isn’t a science.

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There’s always going to be something we don’t like about a partner: they have a gut, they’re balding, they’re short, they have back hair, etc. the question is, can you live with it? I made a list of the things I liked about my partner next to the things I didn’t like when we first started dating. The list of things I liked was 3x longer and more substantive. Do I wish he would lose his love handles? Yep. But I love him anyway.

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🤷‍♀️ if it’s a big enough problem that you aren’t attracted to him because of it…it’s time to move on

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Indeed came here to say this !
We are tired kissing frogs here & you post this 🤦‍♀️ 🤪 if the guy is so good and you cant get past a couple of inches, let him go please. Let someonelse find him🤷‍♀️

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Just wear the heels

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My husband is the best man ever. I love him so much. I could careless about him being 5’8” and me being taller than him when I wear heels. The thought has never bothered me. He’s sooooo sexy to me. Get over it.

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I am almost 5'8" and dated sweet shorter men but could never get attracted to him.

You like what you like. Just don't lead him on

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This would bother me. I’m attracted to taller men. I’ve been told that I have a more “masculine” personality (exact words were “big d*ck energy” 🙄🤢) so I like to feel feminine next to a guy. My husband is 6’4” and it’s a huge turn on for me. I’ve tried to date men who were shorter and I couldn’t get past it. Then, I got to the point where I couldn’t have even accepted date one with a shorter guy… I just don’t find it attractive. It’s ok if you don’t, but I’d cut things off ASAP if this is a deal-breaker for you (and that’s ok).

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This!! It's hard to feel feminine with a shorter guy

If it bothers you, it bothers you! Don’t feel bad or guilty or let others make you feel that way! Everyone has standards and criteria

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🤢

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Those suggesting OP to move on should remember to give the same advice to a man hung up on how how small a potential love interests’ boobs are.

Just FYI- boobs are fixable for $5K, height not so much.

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Not greener on the other side. You may find the tall guy but he may lack all the great things. Height should be the least factor especially since he’s not even that short.

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