Dating as an Asian guy sucks...does anyone else relate?

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How so? Asian here. Not saying this is the case for you, but my Asian friends who have a tougher time dating just date white guys.

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Asian mix here, maybe it’s how you’re approaching it? Also - real talk, if you’re like a 6 or 7 and you’re going for 9s and 10s and getting rejected...I mean 🤷🏻‍♂️

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I'm black. I can relate

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Not Asian but boyfriend is. I can imagine it’s not great given the number of shitty people out there.
All I can say is, when I look around at the number of quality guys dating Asian guys in my circles, there are people out there that will appreciate you but it may take more filtering and frustration in sifting through the crap. Just think of it as avoiding wasting your time on actual dates with said shitty people. I realize this is no consolation and doesn’t make the dating experience feel any better though.

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Thank you! This makes me feel a bit better. I think the hardest part is seeing and hearing all of the people around me go on countless number of dates.

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Asian guy here. What happened OP?

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Actually you must’ve noticed it’s specifically the hardest in NYC. You’ll be grabbed like a thanksgiving sale item in most other places that have less asian people like Cleveland or even Chicago that’s not even that small.

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Asian? Which ctry?

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I’m based in the US, specifically nyc

Just takes some time but you’ll find the right guy.

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<3

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I don’t think it’s that tough in LA. I love being gay and Asian

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Haha LA guys are good looking but most don’t have sustainable careers.

I’m in NYC. Which you’d think it’s a great place to be a gay man! But on the dating apps I’m lucky to get like a few matches and even then no one will respond. I don’t think I’m that ugly tbh (I’m fit, tall, etc.). It’s just so frustrating 😔

Try Facebook dating. I’m getting a lot of matches on there

Also PSA - I’m single and live in Chicago if anyone need / wants a cuffing buddy

D2 how do I apply

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